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What irks you on a first date?

Jay

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    For me, it's when the guy treats it too much like an interview and grills me with questions. Questions are a great way to get to know someone, but it needs to flow smoothly in conversation. I don't want to feel like I'm on the witness stand lol
    mjlolIt's like they came with a list of questions and they reading off each.


    To me, the thing that irks me is LATENESS! If it's like 5 minutes or so I'm cool with that but when we start hitting 10 minutes or more I'm bouncing. I bounced on a shorty earlier in the year and she wasn't even ready.
     

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    For me, it's when the guy treats it too much like an interview and grills me with questions. Questions are a great way to get to know someone, but it needs to flow smoothly in conversation. I don't want to feel like I'm on the witness stand lol
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    This is exactly what women be doing, and I hate it.
     

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    mjlolIt's like they came with a list of questions and they reading off each.


    To me, the thing that irks me is LATENESS! If it's like 5 minutes or so I'm cool with that but when we start hitting 10 minutes or more I'm bouncing. I bounced on a shorty earlier in the year and she wasn't even ready.
    these simp ass niggas out here reinforce that behavior. If my time ain’t worth nothin to you thats fine but its worthing something to me. niggas at the restaurant waiting for 30 mins with a glass of water but still thirsty. I wish a lady would like a kitchen cabinent. She pullin up and see me bouncing like

    waving on my way GIF by Patriot Act
     

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    these simp ass niggas out here reinforce that behavior. If my time ain’t worth nothin to you thats fine but its worthing something to me. niggas at the restaurant waiting for 30 mins with a glass of water but still thirsty. I wish a lady would like a kitchen cabinent. She pullin up and see me bouncing like

    waving on my way GIF by Patriot Act
    This. I can always replace lost money, but I'll never replace lost time.
    If you disrespect my time, then you're disrespecting me. That will not be tolerated.
     

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    I hate first dates, they're so awkward and weird for me. But what irks me the most, is probably when a woman starts to talk about their exes during dinner, or the date. Like, I get it, you want to rant about your ex, but wait to tell me all that later. I want to talk, get to know ya, and have fun. No one should be talking about their exes during a date.
     

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    My dates generally go well. Being late would probably be the most annoying thing.

    Oh wait I just thought of something...when you go out and they try to spend a lot of money to stunt. Then you later find out they don't have it like that.

    Sir no one told you all that was required....though I do appreciate it. One guy tried to blame me for going over his monthly budget...sir you picked the restaurants and you choose dinner dates. 🤷🏾‍♀️
     

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    My dates generally go well. Being late would probably be the most annoying thing.

    Oh wait I just thought of something...when you go out and they try to spend a lot of money to stunt. Then you later find out they don't have it like that.

    Sir no one told you all that was required....though I do appreciate it. One guy tried to blame me for going over his monthly budget...sir you picked the restaurants and you choose dinner dates. 🤷🏾‍♀️
    yea sis this is real spit. I always tell cats that women look at patterns so make sure you build a pattern that you can keep up. Don’t be tryna wine and dine maxin out your credit and then when you finally run out of gas you makin excuses for why your pattern changed.
    • Fancy spot
    • Fancy spot
    • Fancy spot <—pattern set
    • MCdonalds <—pattern broken
    • Jack in the box
    • Burger King

    If you aint holdin like that don’t even make that the expectation.
     

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    yea sis this is real spit. I always tell cats that women look at patterns so make sure you build a pattern that you can keep up. Don’t be tryna wine and dine maxin out your credit and then when you finally run out of gas you makin excuses for why your pattern changed.
    • Fancy spot
    • Fancy spot
    • Fancy spot <—pattern set
    • MCdonalds <—pattern broken
    • Jack in the box
    • Burger King

    If you aint holdin like that don’t even make that the expectation.
    Exactly, be you. You have what you have. I just published a whole video about it. Stunting can really throw off the whole dynamics of a relationship. Too busy being fake to be real.
     

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    yea sis this is real spit. I always tell cats that women look at patterns so make sure you build a pattern that you can keep up. Don’t be tryna wine and dine maxin out your credit and then when you finally run out of gas you makin excuses for why your pattern changed.
    • Fancy spot
    • Fancy spot
    • Fancy spot <—pattern set
    • MCdonalds <—pattern broken
    • Jack in the box
    • Burger King

    If you aint holdin like that don’t even make that the expectation.
    MESSAGE!

    Men need to keep this in mind for everything. I’m always watching patterns I know when you answer the phone, how you pick it up, when you move to another room not answer and why, when you text, when you check social media, I’m watching everything. When you start taking a shower right when you get home instead of after relaxing for a minute and watching TV just know I notice and I’m going to start looking at what other patterns are off.

    Don’t start taking that shower and then stepping outside to take certain calls, I will start with probing questions and I will figure it out.
     

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    MESSAGE!

    Men need to keep this in mind for everything. I’m always watching patterns I know when you answer the phone, how you pick it up, when you move to another room not answer and why, when you text, when you check social media, I’m watching everything. When you start taking a shower right when you get home instead of after relaxing for a minute and watching TV just know I notice and I’m going to start looking at what other patterns are off.

    Don’t start taking that shower and then stepping outside to take certain calls, I will start with probing questions and I will figure it out.

    Girl dont be giving away all the game!!!!!

    The broke boys are lurking and taking notes.