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Goldilocks said:

I love the Lapeef show. They address a ton of relationship topics. What are your thought on a loveless marriages?

Do women need love and warm feelings to maintain a relationship? Or is resources enough?

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I don't think needing love and warm feelings is something exclusive to women but to answer the question. I think that the most important thing you will have to provide is economic security, you can provide all the love and warm feelings you want but if the bills are not getting paid there will be turmoil and strife.

Secondly, the premise in the question read on the show seems to be a relationship not born out of love but out of convenience or of benefit. Meaning, it appears the woman in question is in a relationship with the man based on what he can provide and the loneliness is settling in as the luster of the material fades.

The question asked "will a woman leave if there is no love" I tend to fall in line with Anton and Kay more than King. If there is no love, the woman MAY stay, if the finances are bad, SHE WILL DEFINITELY LEAVE.

But I must caveat and say that these are all generalities, people's intellect and emotion guide them and it's real-time and subject to a unfathomable amount of inputs.

I think there needs to be love in marriage to last in the long run. Of course resources and needs to met, bills need to be paid, and so on. But if she's looking for something meaningful and someone to have a family with, a loveless marriage isn't going to cut it. I feel like if you're in it just for the money, you don't have a stable foundation for a relationship anyway because what if something happens to him or his job? The marriage would be over immediately.

Love is needed but romance is not. I am all for romantic gestures and getting surprises from my man but I value security, trust, and respect more than romance. I always felt real love was a choice and a commitment in and of itself. So long as both people are holding up their ends of the marriage and agree on major things, the marriage will last. You have to be able to grow with someone else though and I feel like a lot of people struggle with this these days.

People gravitate towards resources and once they get resources they can then focus on other things like goals, money, happiness, etc. So loveless marriages are sustainable but resource-less marriages are not. When you account for the amount of resources one has, it increases their rarity, and makes it more difficult for that person to be replaced. So if a woman is with a rich man who has a lot of resources, she'll forgo love in order to not have to make a huge standard of living change. She'll step out and find the love somewhere else. If you don't think Melania Trump got a side nigga you trippin.

Goldilocks said:

I love the Lapeef show. They address a ton of relationship topics. What are your thought on a loveless marriages?

Do women need love and warm feelings to maintain a relationship? Or is resources enough?

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Love makes me want to clean the house, wash the dishes, cook dinner, do the laundry, put loving on my man and brings out my femininity. I will not be vulnerable and submissive to a man I do not love and so for me a loveless marriage is not possible. We’d have to reclaim our love or part ways.