I no longer trip on these hard core swirlers. Why? Stats.
First of all, the whole bigger pond thing is a lie statistically. Tik Tok and Youtube are filled with tons and tons of white women, most 'decent' looking, some attractive who are on there night and day complaining about the dating scene and dating scene for them means white men. The fact is there were and always are more women than men in every group.
So, here is what the swirlers don't say. With Black men, they are almost always competing against other black women for a black man. The higher tier black male producers of course have non Black women in the mix. Anyway, white men, lets say he makes a decent living, okay looking, etc, a 'catch' by most standards. Black women who are swirling aren't just competing with white women for him. They are also competing with Asian women, Latina women (and others) as well. So, the question remains. Why would the typical white male catch, assuming the sista is attractive, pass over the same quality (attractiveness, etc) White, Asian and Latina women, all of whom are far more acceptable in his communty, for a sista? I think sistas are the best thing on earth but in white society white men take a HUGE social risk wifeying a sista. Unless you are in Hollywood and even they are racist, but in Podunk, Iowa, he is immediately an outcast to a segment of his community and family.
Also, huge difference between dating and marrying. Only reasonable attractive sisters get Brad. And Brad will date you, treat you decently. People try hard not to live up to their race/groups stereotype, but will he marry you? So, you have these swirlers who spend their best years dating Brad, they get around 30 and start saying they wanna get a ring and he's like...er...ah...
She can't come back to Tyrone. She may try and purge her old social media of all the tik tok videos of how Brad is the sh*t. But even in her 30s statistically its much, much harder to find ANY husband. They end up either still getting ran through, serial dating, tryna come back to the community or if they get married, stats show nearly 60% of white male/black female marriages end. And you know she gonna try and get a half white baby early on for a variety of reasons.
Its why I don't trip. 5, 10 years from now dang near all these swirlers end up desperate. Look at that Christylen Karazin, the queen of swirling. She got divorced. Think just how f*cked up that marriage had to be. She built her whole public persona and platform and reputation on her being able to get and keep a white man and they divorced. You know she was hanging on to that for dear life. So, really, it must have been far more effed up a marriage than the average marriage for her to divorce and in her late 30s at least if not 40s with kids, her white bf was on Clubhouse dropping n bombs. So, you already know that homelife is slave play like a motha effa. These things don't end well. Even if you are a high producing famous swirler like Halle Berry (paying 16k a month alimony at one time), Sage Steele fmly of ESPN, making 400k a year, white house husband of 19 years, former fitness coach..lol..divorced. It won't end well. Take some solace in that. 95%s will go into middle age lonely and desperate.
