Just by reading what you have said, you are following a talking point that a lot of swirlers (Diversters) talk. You are literally shrugging and blaming black men for actions that they too can be victims of. That's no different than the police or court systems who on a regular when a man comes in and states they have been assaulted by their spouse (because believe it or not when it comes to domestic violence its bidirectional) they get laughed out of the building all the more reason why most men now never report these things. If you keep assuming (or fall into delusion) that when it comes to woman they are all made of sunshine and fart rainbows and you are far from reality because TODAY's woman are not like that and the culture/environment is totally a different breed!
You do this switch talk where you say well,
"I'm all for self-defence" but then talk about,
"Well it's the black man's fault for this and they wouldn't do this to white woman" ....for real? you're being disingenuous. Like that haven't been a case where white woman haven't committed acts of violence and domestic abuse!? try telling that to woman who attack men when they get rejected or when the guy has enough of the abuse and walks away from the relationship only to get murdered by them and the woman easily lie and say,
"he attacked me!!" tell them that no one should be assaulting anyone....because it’s happening.
And where did this well you're tired of black men belittling black woman....WHEN THEY DO THE SAME TO US MAN!! how are you ignoring all of that!? and yes we do see that in the media btw when it comes to opposing groups...you're just not seeing it or choose not to.
Look, I get it the last thing anyone should do is commit some sort of actions against a person UNLESS you are threaten and your life is on the line. IN this case this brotha was going to get balloons for a birthday and he as asking for Helium and he got attacked simply just because; while he didn't attack she as constantly dragging him around like a rag doll for NO REASON and no one did NOTHING until he nearly made an attempt and then EVERYONE jumped on HIM!!
This has been an ongoing thing in every community regardless of the race, but this has been ever more prominent in the black community simply because:
1) The government at large, gives black woman EVERY incentive in every facid and tells them "you....Not your fellow black, man, not the black family unit, are the backbone!" and in turn they get it thru their head simply because they can get away with it to the black man and it will be seen as comedy, as a joke, as a pass off...that they can do whatever they want and it's okay!
2) Feminism tells the black woman they can be EVERY bit as equal...even to the point of fighting like a guy (which there are cases of it); which gives woman incentives to attack a man wherever and they can easily lie about it to get a man hemmed up or worse...dead! cases where woman would call on their friend or family member...make up a story and they will come down and hurt or kill the man based on heresy ; and this gets overlooked because black feminist, media, etc will say of course it's always the black man's fault or the black man would NEVER have this vitriol towards something who's white.....sounds familiar!?
I agree, having restraint is the first and smart option, second is to record, record, record EVERYTHING!...until you know your life is on the line then you have to do something than just turn the other cheek; when that same person who's attacking you, the same person you are in a relationship or even just arguing with is making it known they will kill you!
and if you still don't believe that are capable of violence simply on the basis of ASSUMPTIONS rather than fact...then you can click on the link below about a case that just happen recently!
Indiana Woman ALLEGEDLY tracks Boyfriend using apple airtags, accuses him of cheating & Murders Him 
