The Cookout

[DaBeast]

Has there ever been a time in your life where jealousy hurt your relationship with someone? There was this one girl I dated, who I at first thought was the one. Like I thought she was it, but that's just some puppy love shit. Anyway, she had a lot of guy friends, and I was often jealous whenever she hung out with any of them. Usually she was with a few of them, but I remember catching her with one of the dudes alone, and it made me crazy jealous. I asked he what was going on, and she said nothing, and said they were just friends. I got mad and left. She called me and broke up with me right there, saying she wasn't going to stick with someone who was constantly jealous of her friends. She told me she viewed them more as brothers and nothing has ever happened with them.

She still ended up breaking up with me, because I think she assumed I would always be jealous of them or something. But yeah, that's one relationship of mine where she just dropped me right after. Then again, we were only dating for a short period, maybe a month or two, but still I was probably a bit too jealous. Still though, I couldn't get over the fact that she hung out with them so much and often didn't even invite me. So I think I have a right to be confused and jealous about it all.

Sorry for the story, I hate talking about stuff like this, but I find it helps a lot. Thanks for listening!

But yeah, have you ever hurt a relationship because of jealousy, or maybe the other way around? Maybe your bf or gf was jealous of your friends maybe?

 

[sourgrapes]

When I was younger, I had issues with jealousy. I will admit that. I likely still do but I have been a lot more choosy in who I date. Usually, if a guy gives me a reason not to trust him, all bets are off. I become paranoid and snoop around. My one ex was talking to his ex behind my back and I only found out cause she got in touch with me. He was also hollering at his cousin's ex too. I knew more about computers than he did and slid my way onto his laptop. Found a mess in his search history and cracker his passwords. The dude was talking up all kind of crap on Facebook with other women. And his one friend was sending him pictures of naked women he was banging to his e-mail. Needless to say, I could not trust him around women at all and I would become jealous. I don't think he ever acted on anything but he gave me enough of a reason to never trust him again and I dumped him a few months after finding all this out.

Another ex was the jealous one and he made me pay for everything in my past that had nothing to do with him. Close to ending the relationship, he had me feeling like everything was my fault and I deserved to be put down. He called me all sorts of names (whore, slut), ect) even though I never cheated on him. I am glad I came to my sense and dumped him.

 

[Red Velvet]

I’ve never been the jealous one but I had a very jealous boyfriend who would snoop through my phones, computers, anything, and everything to try to catch me cheating. It was so bad that if I said a male actor had a good performance he would accuse me of wanting them. If I smiled at a server he would think he and I wanted to link up. I had to leave his crazy ass alone, he was such a headache.

 

[Goldilocks]

I had a guy tell me I was too good looking to trust. 🤣 Does that count?

 

[Jay]

I had a guy tell me I was too good looking to trust. 🤣 Does that count?

Talk about insecure.

He wants an ugly woman who feels like she lucked up being with him so she will sit there and tolerate his foolish nonsense.

 

[lexodyssey]

I'm not really the jealous type but I was in a relationship with a really jealous guy. He wasn't abusive or overly controlling or anything, but it got to the point where he made me feel uncomfortable doing anything without him. He didn't like that I had friends of my own or anything like that. It caused a lot of stress on me to try and make everyone happy and I had to break it off.