The Cookout

Sapphire said:

On my way to work the other day, some radio show was talking about the rise of male gold diggers in the black community.

I have not noticed it myself but apparently, since ladies are out there getting their degrees and getting good-paying jobs, a lot of men have switched things up and they have become gold diggers looking to leach off successful ladies.

Is this really a growing trend or was this show blowing things out of proportion?

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To a degree, it has been happening for awhile and I don't see how it will benefit society in the long run as this is not what nature intended. Faux feminism (sexual "liberation", "I can do anything a man can do if not better", "I'm independent and can pay my own way") and bastardized meninism ("women are such golddiggers man and they have it so easy, we should be making them pay our way", "lol it would funny to see feminism backfire as we use feminism and the gender role swap to our advantage", "sex robots and overseas women ftw, bye femoids") is slowly eating women alive and stifling the growth of transforming males into men in our society because we are now seeing more female workplace burnout, "high reward = low risk" for the males as well as the "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" mentality being enforced and encouraged.

Have you ever heard about hobosexuality and how many women house, feed, and give money and resources to unachieving, low achieving males? Or about the stay at home dads and dudes earning minimum wages while their girlfriends / wives are doctors, nurses, etc? Or how women will help support and build their men up only for their dudes to leave them for someone else (like another woman or even a guy)? The gender roles have been swapped for the worse.

Some males feel emasculated or some type way when they take on the female role in their relationships while other males are happily getting spoiled and having their cake and eating it too without remorse. In some cases, some of these males will gladly take advantage of certain women. This also includes professional working males as well. I have even read about how this high earning male professional would live in his wife / girlfriend's house without paying anything while stacking his money on the side and refusing to let her access his money. Basically, he made and manipulated his girlfriend/wife into paying his way 100% of the time while the guy covered 0% of the expenses and bills. Some of these dudes will justify using th women because "the EcoNOmy iS BaD", "sHe'S oKaY WiTh iT" or some other lame excuse. The financial abuse and mind games are real.

That has been happening for a minute...lol. I've known a few. Me? Nah. Some animals can't survive in captivity.

Also, songs like "Miss Independent" don't help.
View: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=k6M5C-oKw9k


And truth be told, that song "Gold Digger" seemed to lowkey imply that any women looking for any sort of financial security needs to be looked at with suspicion.

Men don't like golddiggers.
View: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6vwNcNOTVzY

Got it. Completely understandable.

Many men would like for women to succeed, be more independent, pay some of their way and have things of their own. Okay. Sounds nice.

Many more women then suddenly become more independent of men and pay their own way and somehow, a lot of men complain or feel intimidated that she's "too independent." Many women then complain that men are not working hard enough and doing their part.

We need to find a healthy balance and figure out what both us women and men want and need and are actually looking for.

Yes male gold diggers exist and it's a trend more so out of necessity than greed. Niggas is starving out here and finessing gullible women appeals to some

I have homeboys who prey on less attractive/fat women on Facebook. Said they the best suga mamas lol

Trillfate said:

Yes male gold diggers exist and it's a trend more so out of necessity than greed. Niggas is starving out here and finessing gullible women appeals to some

I have homeboys who prey on less attractive/fat women on Facebook. Said they the best suga mamas lol

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Yeah I notice that when it is dudes doing the golddigging or looking for some sort of financial security, they are either praised or people (including some women) laugh along as they say #GetMoneyBitch. But when women do the golddigging or look for some sort of financial security, many women will shout #SecureTheBag or #GetMoneyBitch while people (including other women) will say that the woman is "being too picky", being "unrealistic", "practicing hypergamy", being selfish and shallow, she's "using him", and is *insert expletives here*, and it has to be treated as a serious matter / threat rather merely laughed off.

They say that prostitution is the oldest profession in the world. People are also aware (but at times conveniently forget) that men have been financially providing and caring for their women (golddigger or not) and children as well as purchasing young wives or bribing women to be their wife/wives since the beginning of time. It's bad enough we have broke women or women who are struggling financially with or without men on their side. Welp, thanks to this all around gender warring, societal / political / governmental / corporate corruption, and perserve sexual "liberation" movements, today we still have prostitutes along with IG thots and escorts walking around, but we are seeing less men willfully financially providing and caring their women (and in some cases children) and increasingly being unable to provide for themselves and their women and/or their families.

Lotsa white boys started doing it as well, when the opiod crisis hit their ass tough. But brothers been doing it for a while, especially on fugly white girls who can't pay a white boy to smash them. That game has been going on for a minute.

Sapphire said:

On my way to work the other day, some radio show was talking about the rise of male gold diggers in the black community.

I have not noticed it myself but apparently, since ladies are out there getting their degrees and getting good-paying jobs, a lot of men have switched things up and they have become gold diggers looking to leach off successful ladies.

Is this really a growing trend or was this show blowing things out of proportion?

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They're called gigolos, beloved, and they've been around forever.
View: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=NTavf-5Mdpo

Playing a gigolo was Morris Day's entire gimmick: View: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=85iu_Jieolc

Even Nick Cannon tried to pay homage to the lifestyle: View: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ENDHD47-8-M

Rollie Forbes said:

They're called gigolos, beloved, and they've been around forever.

View: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=NTavf-5Mdpo

Playing a gigolo was Morris Day's entire gimmick:

View: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=85iu_Jieolc

Even Nick Cannon tried to pay homage to the lifestyle:

View: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ENDHD47-8-M

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You forgot about Deuce Bigalow: American and European Male Gigolo.

RCNAL said:

That has been happening for a minute...lol. I've known a few. Me? Nah. Some animals can't survive in captivity.

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Sapphire said:

Oh right, I knew this was a term but I just associated it with being a male prostitute. I didn't equate it to being a gold digger. Like a gold digger isn't a prostitute per se but I guess when you strip away everything, it really is the same thing. They are just being exclusive to one person. They provide their sexual services in exchange for some rich person to take care of them.

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Pimps as well.