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I think it depends on the reason why the relationship is falling apart. If both actively want to save the relationship, then that's a good reason to try therapy. I know of a couple who went to therapy but ended up divorcing because they really didn't want to be in a relationship with each other anymore.

DaBeast said:

I know people who have gone through divorce. Some of them did go through couple therapy, while others did not. Some of them still got divorces, but some did stick together for a while longer.

Anyway, would you go through therapy first if you feel a divorce is coming?

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Divorcing prior to therapy in my opinion is quitting early. Some egregious offenses like cheating are understandable but if it's communication or trust issues I think you should go try to do the work before quitting.

I think it’s your obligation to go through every possible solution before getting divorce. If you only plan for perfection then you have no business getting married in the first place.

Goldilocks said:

I think it’s your obligation to go through every possible solution before getting divorce. If you only plan for perfection then you have no business getting married in the first place.

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Facts.

people be gettin married based on emotion and don’t be soaking in “until death do us part”. Like u really supposed to try ride that joint out until yall retire to the spirit realm. If you ain’t really giving it a fair shake and quit before doing the work then why u marry in the first place?

I would do therapy before calling it quits, but I think so many rush into relationships and we end up in this trend of divorces happening so often. I think it's because people rush into a relationship, and sometimes go way too far and in turn they find out they're stuck in a relationship they don't want.

I've heard people getting married as soon as a couple months to a year together. Honestly, I think you should be dating someone at least 3-5 years before marriage. That's how I feel anyway. People who date for weeks, and then get married are just crazy imo. Like, don't rush things.

But, it's not always that. I think some people just grow apart. I truly believe that we as mammals, are intended to mate with more than one woman, but society has deemed that wrong because of religion and marriage. I think a lot of the times, it's just people losing interest in one another. And I don't think therapy can solve that.

But, I still think going through therapy would be best, and then go from there.