This is kind of a controversial topic but for the men here, do you expect a woman to submit to you without you having to be accountable for results? It seems like a lot of men in our society feel that submissiveness from a woman is a right, I disagree. I feel like submissiveness is a privilege and you have to earn it by being a provider and protector that creates emotional, financial, and physical stability in the household. A woman is unable to bask in her feminine energy when the basic tenets of survival are unmet.
This is why our Black American women typical display masculine traits because they have been dealt a bad hand over the past 70 years. Their men have been overly arrested, overly charged, overly Incarcerated, and denied jobs which culminated in a environment where Black American women had to be the tentpole for the family. To make matters worse, the Man was UNABLE to come back into the household if the woman was on public assistance thus reinforcing the Black woman having to hold down the household.
So I say all that to say this, understand masculinity and what woman expect from you as a man. Be a leader, a provider, and protector and she will choose to lock onto your plan if it makes sense. Will there be women out there unwilling to do so? Yes. But for every bum ass woman is a bum ass dude…don’t let their darkness mask your light.
Submissiveness is a side effect of you being a provider and protector…don’t expect it if you ain’t doing your job.