TELL THE TRUTH!!! I don’t think details are necessary. Give enough information to get the point across. The last thing you want is your partner being blind sided. If you’re that girl/guy doesn’t really matter what your dirty little secret is, a mature partner will be there.
Truth right there. As well, not telling them now, and them hearing about it later, could cause further trust issues, so yeah, I gotta spill my shit before I go into a relationship. I expect the same from her as well, at least not right away, but before anything serious like marriage comes about.
This also a good policy because there is less to remember. If this was a couple of ex’s ago I would be able to fill this thread up with secrets but I‘m now reformed. I got tired of having to make lies ontop of lies to cover for lies I forgot about. I’m too old and tired of having my keys being thrown at me that ish hurts.
Yeah, lying just causes too many problems, and then you start to forget what you lied about. The worry washes away when you reveal the secrets I think. It just becomes too much. I know, I have family and friends who are notorious for stuff like this. It just causes more issues.
My dad had a secret whole other family that ish was wild. Personally I don’t keep secrets because I’m not good at that ish. My moms would always say whatever was on her mind and I picked it up. It was never sassy but she never backed down and would ride for her fam at all costs. Once we found out my dad was hoeing we left and I was with my mom and my dad wrote us off and f**ked with his first family.
Damn, sorry to hear that. I can barely live one life, could only imagine trying to handle two families. Sorry to hear he stuck with his first family. It's surprising how many people live double lives like that, having more than one family.
I am not good at lying either. I guess I have a tell that people catch on to.
From exes in my earlier years, absolutly! I wasn't expecting anything long-term nor had any direction for myself at the time. I wasn't going to risk everything about me being let out when he decides he is bored with me or something.
Yeah I told all my secrets to my exes, at least when I got comfortable enough with them. I think there's a time to tell them, but I don't think I'd do it too early either. I've dated women before where we lasted a couple weeks to a couple months, and I usually wait on spilling my past to a girlfriend. I want to be sure we're both comfortable enough to tell each other everything.
No one needs to know everything.
Yes it kinda messes up the mystic. There should always be something more too you.
I get that. I do have some smaller secrets my past girlfriends never got, but the ones I dated for a while, I always spilled the darkest secrets, and a lot of the embarrassing ones. But Idk, I kinda like keeping some of my secrets and stories to tell later. So I guess that's where the mystic side of it comes in.
