The Cookout

[Blackgravity]

I've been married for a long time and over the years you learn more and more about your wife/husband and sometimes you'll clash on certain things like décor. I have a modern/mid century taste. Mostly because of the era I grew up in and because I think it looks good. My wife on the other hand has a more Craftsman's/colonial taste. I don't mind some of it but a lot of it is ugly to me and I can't stand it.
We pretty much clash on everything when it comes to furnishing a room, I buy new furniture every 5-7 years and it's a headache trying to find something we both agree on. Like I love leather couches, had them when I was single, but she hates leather furniture...
Am I the only one with this issue?

 

[Jay]

I've been married for a long time and over the years you learn more and more about your wife/husband and sometimes you'll clash on certain things like décor. I have a modern/mid century taste. Mostly because of the era I grew up in and because I think it looks good. My wife on the other hand has a more Craftsman's/colonial taste. I don't mind some of it but a lot of it is ugly to me and I can't stand it.
We pretty much clash on everything when it comes to furnishing a room, I buy new furniture every 5-7 years and it's a headache trying to find something we both agree on. Like I love leather couches, had them when I was single, but she hates leather furniture...
Am I the only one with this issue?

I think in this case its best to just surrender some rooms altogether. If the kitchen is going to look like walking into Massah's pantry then just surrender the kitchen and then stake your claim in another room.

 

[Blackgravity]

I think in this case its best to just surrender some rooms altogether. If the kitchen is going to look like walking into Massah's pantry then just surrender the kitchen and then stake your claim in another room.

I kinda already do that, my office and music room is off limit's to any suggestion. but common areas are struggle for me, living room breakfast room den ect...

 

[Jay]

I kinda already do that, my office and music room is off limit's to any suggestion. but common areas are struggle for me, living room breakfast room den ect...

You just gotta suck it up when you walk by the ugly ass dark brown armoire with the glass doors in the dining room with the china set oh it that yall never use. In 15 years she is going to put life-like dolls in it just letting you know.

 

[Ogun]

You just gotta suck it up when you walk by the ugly ass dark brown armoire with the glass doors in the dining room with the china set oh it that yall never use. In 15 years she is going to put life-like dolls in it just letting you know.

Hell Naw! no dolls!

 

[The Honorable]

What I have done when co-habitating is go room by room and discuss how we will late it out, which furniture will be where, and if we're going to bring something from the past or by something new. It makes it easy to give and take and have an input in each room so that it doesn't get out of hand.

I'll surrender a bathroom or dining but never the kitchen or living room.

 

[Sovereign]

What I have done when co-habitating is go room by room and discuss how we will late it out, which furniture will be where, and if we're going to bring something from the past or by something new. It makes it easy to give and take and have an input in each room so that it doesn't get out of hand.

I'll surrender a bathroom or dining but never the kitchen or living room.

Slick. My girl and I are moving in with each other this year and I think I’m going to apply this methodology. She has a bunch of stuff she wants to bring and I don’t want our spot turning into her spot 2.0.

 

[sourgrapes]

I have a particular taste and in most cases, it doesn't clash with a man's so I never really had an issue here. I am more concerned about color matching. For me, if things don't match it is an eyesore. I like the idea of just allowing each person to have their own rooms. Make a compromise if you can't agree. Have a room or two that blends both styles together.

 

[James]

It always be headache for me and sometime we have to leave things on them as you can argue with them too much. We divide few things so we can't have arguments.

 

[GwynShivers]

I've been married for a long time and over the years you learn more and more about your wife/husband and sometimes you'll clash on certain things like décor. I have a modern/mid century taste. Mostly because of the era I grew up in and because I think it looks good. My wife on the other hand has a more Craftsman's/colonial taste. I don't mind some of it but a lot of it is ugly to me and I can't stand it.
We pretty much clash on everything when it comes to furnishing a room, I buy new furniture every 5-7 years and it's a headache trying to find something we both agree on. Like I love leather couches, had them when I was single, but she hates leather furniture...
Am I the only one with this issue?

My husband & I've been together a long, long time. When we first met, we asked questions. Likes, dislikes, pros, cons, do's, don't, tolerable & intolerable.
After ALL our cards were on the table, we discovered we have lots in common. Then, my then possible love connection asked me a question nobody ever asked. "Do you wanna date or be exclusive"? I'm 8 years older than he, so my answer was, "We're not teenagers anymore, the latter". Been together ever since.
We don’t disagree on furniture, food, TV or anything like that.
When we do, we can agree to disagree & keep it moving. Fact is, we both have valid points, so there's no right or wrong, just different opinions.

 

[GwynShivers]

Hell Naw! no dolls!

🤣🤣🤣🤣

 

[Goodness]

I and my spouse have different tatstes
He likes his food cold, I can't eat any food if its not hot

I love to sleep naked, he likes to wear his pajamas.
I love my Ac on, he cant stand the cold from the AC

But we have managed this for 12 years and still counting.
It all boils down to UNDERSTANDING

 

[Ravenfreak]

Honestly my wife and I are both nerds and have almost the exact taste when it comes to pop culture. We don't have much in the way of decorations, just mainly nerd things. xD I'm a huge Sonic nerd and she loves Kingdom Hearts, so we have wall scrolls, and posters. Our taste in music is slightly different however, we usually just listen to music in headphones so we don't bother the other person.

 

[Sapphire]

Depending on what room we are talking, I can have some pretty frilly and girly taste which no man (unless he was gay) would appreciate! I have learned to tone it down a bit when I share space with a man but it is not easy, not at first. I guess if I was in it for the long haul, I would make my own space and probably call it "the pink room". Decorate it how I want and keep all my stuff that would otherwise look out of place in there. I can compromise if I know the relationship has a future.

 

[Maxwell]

My thoughts is that the woman owns the home. You can be the man all you want but she gets to decide how she wants her home to look like. They do all the taking care of home thing, so they get to decide how they want it to look like. My father never argues with mother on this one. What he did was get his own space and put it exactly how he wants it and it was his work office at home. My mother never get anywhere near that part of the house 😂.

 

[SINCEREM]

Taste is a choice, if you love quality, definitely you'll live for it. Their is no way I can find pleasure putting on rags, I'll always find that pleasure when it comes to quality materials, but would steal to get them when my funds aren't adequate for it.

 

[chinwe]

For me, it was a bit difficult to come to a compromise initially, what we do now is to have a concrete conversation, reach an agreement and that settles it. I don't joke with good quality and class and come what may, I never settle for less.

 

[Danny]

Woman gets a bigger say in how they like their home to look. Trying to drag that out with them would only make it more difficult for you because in the end of everything, you will end letting her have her. Just get your own personal space that's going to your sanctuary.

 

[Christybabe]

I have being married for 12years,and I must say,hubby and I have learnt to tolerate each other. Sometimes we both compromise and just go with the flow,and other times, someone will just bend to what the other person wants.

 

[MR-D-ROB]

Me and my wife have different tastes in literally everything. Cars, food, music, movies, television, sex positions. I mean the list just goes on.

The way we have gotten around that is we both try new stuff.

We negotiate and compromise. Like we take turns picking cars.

Like when we got our house we compromised that I'd get certain things that I wanted and she would get certain things.

The most important thing to me was location. She cared more about looks and aesthetics. So in the end we found something we were all happy with.

As far as sex well, happy wife happy life. I just go with what she likes. If she is happy and satisfied then so am I!

 

[Harbinger]

Me and my wife have different tastes in literally everything. Cars, food, music, movies, television, sex positions. I mean the list just goes on.

The way we have gotten around that is we both try new stuff.

We negotiate and compromise. Like we take turns picking cars.

Like when we got our house we compromised that I'd get certain things that I wanted and she would get certain things.

The most important thing to me was location. She cared more about looks and aesthetics. So in the end we found something we were all happy with.

As far as sex well, happy wife happy life. I just go with what she likes. If she is happy and satisfied then so am I!

Do you ever assert yourself? If you‘re not asserting yourself during sex and getting what you need I’m sure that’s manifesting in everything else.