I am all for men having their cake but you have to be honest about it. If you are fronting like you are serious with 3 different women who you have no intentions of marrying or don't want to be fully committed, that is just being cruel and further damaging the way women view men and vice versa.
As for the OP, some women like to play hard to get and some men enjoy it. If you don't like it then don't go for women who play romance this way and if you do like it, don't treat women who are easier left to feel like some kind of hoes.
Having a roster is different than being a player.
I basically didn't do anything that women don't do instinctively, have options. When you call a woman and you like "hey, you want to go out Friday" and she like "I dont know I'll let you know on Friday morning" she basically keeping her options open to see if another, better offer comes in from a guy she likes more.
When you as a man don't have a roster, you're left waiting on the hook for her to make a choice that you have no say in. But if you have multiple womenyou're dating you can just call another one who is willing to make a firm commitment to Friday. When you find the one you want, you let the roster go./
Before I was taken I used to say "when you date a player and find out he's dating multiple women you feel played, when you date me and find out I'm dating multiple women you realize you played yourself".