The Cookout

[Valontino Pierson]

I've felt misunderstood my whole life. I've had people tell me that I have a bad attitude but in all honesty, the problem with being an over thinker is that you notice everything and take it all personally...

I'm not quiet because I'm too mean to talk, I'm quiet 'cause I'm reading the room and feeling out the space to see if it's safe to be myself there or not

I don't decline invites to hang out or attend friend and family functions all the time because I'm trying to be funny or don't want to support what my people have going on, sometimes I decline because I know that I'm not or haven't been fully embraced around certain ones and have no desire to pretend like the environment is sincere while constantly ducking or dishing strange vibes because we all know what it is and what it ain't...

#JustThinkingOutLoud

 

[Red Velvet]

You sound just like an introvert to me. You like to be in your thoughts a lot and that’s totally fine.

 

[Harbinger]

You sound just like an introvert to me. You like to be in your thoughts a lot and that’s totally fine.

Which could be tough as hell if you’re growing up in a house full of extroverts. They make you feel like you’re anti-social or weird and you end up feeling alone. Luckily I never had that issue, I’m more of an ambivert anyways.

 

[Blackgravity]

I've felt misunderstood my whole life. I've had people tell me that I have a bad attitude but in all honesty, the problem with being an over thinker is that you notice everything and take it all personally...

I'm not quiet because I'm too mean to talk, I'm quiet 'cause I'm reading the room and feeling out the space to see if it's safe to be myself there or not

I don't decline invites to hang out or attend friend and family functions all the time because I'm trying to be funny or don't want to support what my people have going on, sometimes I decline because I know that I'm not or haven't been fully embraced around certain ones and have no desire to pretend like the environment is sincere while constantly ducking or dishing strange vibes because we all know what it is and what it ain't...

#JustThinkingOutLoud

I'm exactly the same way, my mom's nickname for me when I was young was "The Thinker" I used to pass time by people-watching when I'd go downtown. I'd never sat in a restaurant with my back to the door, in every movie theater I would sit close to the aisle. I've always been the "glass is half empty" type... pessimist if you will. Thinking this way kept me alive for a long time.

 

[Harbinger]

I'm exactly the same way, my mom's nickname for me when I was young was "The Thinker" I used to pass time by people-watching when I'd go downtown. I'd never sat in a restaurant with my back to the door, in every movie theater I would sit close to the aisle. I've always been the "glass is half empty" type... pessimist if you will. Thinking this way kept me alive for a long time.

How has that been on your mental? There’s a lot of stuff to not like in the USA, does it depress you? Could you ever see things as half full or have you?

 

[Jay]

I've felt misunderstood my whole life. I've had people tell me that I have a bad attitude but in all honesty, the problem with being an over thinker is that you notice everything and take it all personally...

That can simply be a function of being ultra aware. I’ve blown up in people before and people around me would be like:

But I may have blown up because I was factoring body language, intonation, tone, IN ADDITION to the words and that’s why I snapped.

People really speak more with their body and tone because it’s harder to fake it.