The Cookout

[RCNAL]

For those of you who are single. What are your requirements in dating with your present mindset? Would you consider dating someone of another race still? If you are FBA are non FBAs completely off your dating/marriage list?
Even if they share the same beliefs?
Would you consider someone who was biracial but identified as black and was pro black?
This is assuming the person has the looks, personality, as well.

 

[Troy]

I have dated other races in the past but the more conscious I become the hard I feel it will be to date someone of another race or ethnic group. We'll start clashing politically and it will mess up the relationship.

 

[Terrymist]

I have dated a few biracials previously, and they identified as black so it wasnt an issue.

Moving forward, any potential wife for me would need to be pro-black/ developing a B1 mindset. Religion/belief system wouldn't necessarily be a deal breaker for me, but she would need to be B1.

 

[Deleted member 1475]

My relationship would have to be with a Black British woman with a B1 mindset. Her family has to be at least three generations or more into living in the UK. I'm already mixed so I don't think I'd have a relationship or start a family with another half-Black person, I'm not sure what the kids would look like.

 

[Deleted member 1946]

For those of you who are single. What are your requirements in dating with your present mindset? Would you consider dating someone of another race still? If you are FBA are non FBAs completely off your dating/marriage list?
Even if they share the same beliefs?
Would you consider someone who was biracial but identified as black and was pro black?
This is assuming the person has the looks, personality, as well.

I haven't dated anybody yet, but I cannot see myself dating anybody who is not Black American (freedmen). I don't think I even want a Black Caribbean or Black African person to date. I'm just being honest.

 

[Deleted member 1946]

My relationship would have to be with a Black British woman with a B1 mindset. Her family has to be at least three generations or more into living in the UK. I'm already mixed so I don't think I'd have a relationship or start a family with another half-Black person, I'm not sure what the kids would look like.

Totally understand where you are coming from. It would also help to increase the chances that you get somebody who is culturally similar to you.

 

[Deleted member 1946]

I have dated a few biracials previously, and they identified as black so it wasnt an issue.

Moving forward, any potential wife for me would need to be pro-black/ developing a B1 mindset. Religion/belief system wouldn't necessarily be a deal breaker for me, but she would need to be B1.

Understand. B1 is definitely a must. And I am the same way with religion/belief system. I can deal with somebody who has a different belief system as long as it is not one of these wicked ones.

 

[Deleted member 1946]

I have dated a few biracials previously, and they identified as black so it wasnt an issue.

Moving forward, any potential wife for me would need to be pro-black/ developing a B1 mindset. Religion/belief system wouldn't necessarily be a deal breaker for me, but she would need to be B1.

One more thing... What was your relationship like with biracials and how did it compare to those relationships you had with those who had two Black parents?

 

[Terrymist]

What was your relationship like with biracials

For the most part it was alright. First biracial I dated was cool, she was more needy than I liked, but overall was good. I ended because I thought we were getting serious too quickly. The last couple of biracials I dated were purely physical relationships.

how did it compare to those relationships you had with those who had two Black parents?

If I was to break it down, those relationships I had with those who had two Black parents tended to be more self-assured. Not something I can specifically put my finger on or give examples, but the vibe I got was one of being self-assured.

 

[Kanu]

I'm brazilian so i'm considered exotical.

My DM's are open, ladies.

 

[RCNAL]

I was on another site and a brotha said that I shouldn't make matching my black consciousness a deal breaker. He said if a woman is totally into you and you're the one, she will adopt your views. He had a point. I dated sisters who became more conscious after they starting dating me. They weren't as committed but they definitely were more pro black.

I would prefer black American women because its what I know, what I grew up with, grew up dating, but am open to a sista outside America. By black American, I don't mean she's FBA per se. Just grew up in America no matter the lineage. What I found out dating sisters either who live in Africa or elsewhere in the diaspora, even where my peoples are from, they don't get the nuances, jokes, etc. They will take jokes or kidding literally but a person who grew up in America wouldn't.

It's strange to say this but in a lot of instances a white American woman would understand me culturally, socially more than a native African sista. I'm not talking dating, just regular conversation. I have to explain references to one and not the other.

Watching movies, music, etc, you feel alone when the other person doesn't understand. What has also irritated me is if they think everything in America is great and our systemic racism and all that is overstated. I don't even consider someone like that. Deal breaker.

The exception are black Canadians and black British women. They understand the references for the most part (especially black Canadians, pretty much zero difference for the ones who were born and raised there) and the black British women understand it even though its not theirs culturally.

Things are changing though. I've found that many native African people are into black American culture heavy so will say 'Boo', 'Fam', 'Lit' and other words and understand them. The sisters I have had the least cultural connections to are Latina black women. They are Latina. And they have the most shame about their complexion and I can't f*ck with any woman who doesn't see black skin generally and specifically dark skin as beautiful. That's a deal breaker.

That being said, love should conquer all as they say.

 

[RCNAL]

I haven't dated anybody yet, but I cannot see myself dating anybody who is not Black American (freedmen). I don't think I even want a Black Caribbean or Black African person to date. I'm just being honest.

No offense taken. I already foresaw that part of this whole reparations thing will affect dating. Just my guess. I think FBA women who are B1 would obviously prefer to with an FBA B1q, but they will likely be more open to dating non FBA than the other way around IF the guy is culturally black American and is 100% on board. I'm not saying all, but more likely than the guys will especially if he's a producer.

For example, Godfrey the comedian, Nigerian descent. Called out Vlad on Farrakhan. I don't think many sisters would not date him because of his lineage because he's on board. (or I assume he is by his rhetoric). I've heard Vlad try to be slick and tell him what Tariq (a friend of Godfrey's) said about Nigerians and Godfrey agreed that most had that 'akata' mindset.

Anyway, if you are a producer, making 6 figures or more, got your sh*t together, and you are a solid brother, a lot of sistas, even pro Black is gonna say 'Nah, he ain't FBA' if he's on board. They may worry about how it may look but a producer is a producer. I can also see some brothers, even B1, if a non FBA descended woman is pro black and is wifey in looks and attitude, make some exceptions...haha. Brothers will pay that lip service (not saying you) but will be like 'Dang, can't pass this one up'.

 

[Deleted member 231]

Its hard to even be friends with a non FBA, much less date one. After I saw Get Out, I was cool on IR dating, but then when I started doing the knowledge about where we came from and where they come from, its almost impossible to get past. For me to even fool with anyone socially, if they are Black, they must be B-1, and if they are non-Black, they must at least agree that non Blacks must repair the damage they have done. Romantically, I tried to be "open minded", and dated women outside the race and no matter how cool they appeared to be, my politics and philosophies always created friction. After I got a hold of the ISIS Papers, there was no going back. At this point though, my focus is on stacking my bread, and the right lady will follow as a result of my finances being straight. Until then, I'm just laying in the cut.

 

[Sapphire]

I have dated white men and latino men but it never works out cause when the hard issues get raised, they deflect or don't wanna hear it. I may be mixed but I know I want to marry a black man. I don't want my kids to be less black than me.

 

[Terrymist]

if a woman is totally into you and you're the one, she will adopt your views. He had a point.

Eloquently put.

 

[Totvi_Podcast]

For those of you who are single. What are your requirements in dating with your present mindset? Would you consider dating someone of another race still? If you are FBA are non FBAs completely off your dating/marriage list?
Even if they share the same beliefs?
Would you consider someone who was biracial but identified as black and was pro black?
This is assuming the person has the looks, personality, as well.

I’m 48 year old Blackman from the US. Some would say so called negro/ lost found/ Ados/ FBA. Either way you slice it or serve it up. A proud Blackman. I have dated FBA and non FBA women . At the core of it all, the woman that I would hope to marry . Would be a black woman. It comes to the point of having common ground. If I can have that with her , then I would be good.

 

[Deleted member 231]

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hanging with them Becky's can be deadly in so many ways.......poor fellow....

 

[Harbinger]

I'm brazilian so i'm considered exotical.

My DM's are open, ladies.

But you’re not B1.

 

[Kanu]

But you’re not B1.

I want my people to be saved, I'm more B1 than yall.

 

[Harbinger]

I want my people to be saved, I'm more B1 than yall.

You wish, you're not Black first, you're Jesus first and something else second but it ain't Black.

 

[Kanu]

You wish, you're not Black first, you're Jesus first and something else second but it ain't Black.

Jesus was a black man so yeah, he's the only way for salvation.

 

[Princess El-Bey]

I'm brazilian so i'm considered exotical.

My DM's are open, ladies.

HA! Good one

 

[Princess El-Bey]

For those of you who are single. What are your requirements in dating with your present mindset? Would you consider dating someone of another race still? If you are FBA are non FBAs completely off your dating/marriage list?
Even if they share the same beliefs?
Would you consider someone who was biracial but identified as black and was pro black?
This is assuming the person has the looks, personality, as well.

I’ve dated outside my race and religion. a white man and a Jewish man. Both relationships eventually clashed and the disagreements did default, on their end to racial insensitivity. There is nothing like a black man.. period. One of my exes was a white man with a black male personality and charisma BUT he default ed to racial biases and that ended it for me.. so no, it’s not worth it for me. Also African men.. no comment, my experiences were, no comment 🤦🏽‍♀️Cultural differences.

My current relationship is with a Black American w/Cuban ancestry, from Compton CA, we get along well and have a lot in common so go figure, my best relationship yet. No matter what race, I feel it’s a person’s ideology that will make or break the relationship.

 

[RCNAL]

Its hard to even be friends with a non FBA, much less date one.

No disrespect, just curious, you mean homies or dating or both? You never grew up with any non FBA homies? None in your area? Or you did and since you were a kid you just never f*cked with any?
Reason why I ask is this is a very unique view. Not saying you are right or wrong, you are doing you. I've never heard that before.
Anyway, thanks. If you don't wish to comment, that's fine.

 

[RCNAL]

But you’re not B1.

I should know better and no disrespect. I don't know much about either of you but I can't think of anyone on here who posts regularly who isn't pro black. I just read posts and not pay much attention to much else.
What makes him not B1? I have read his posts and didn't get that impression but I could have just not paid attention. I didn't even know the religious aspect at all.

 

[RCNAL]

I’ve dated outside my race and religion. a white man and a Jewish man. Both relationships eventually clashed and the disagreements did default, on their end to racial insensitivity. There is nothing like a black man.. period. One of my exes was a white man with a black male personality and charisma BUT he default ed to racial biases and that ended it for me.. so no, it’s not worth it for me. Also African men.. no comment, my experiences were, no comment 🤦🏽‍♀️Cultural differences.

My current relationship is with a Black American w/Cuban ancestry, from Compton CA, we get along well and have a lot in common so go figure, my best relationship yet. No matter what race, I feel it’s a person’s ideology that will make or break the relationship.

I hear ya. There is just a connection between black people that is natural and doesn't have to be explained. When its clicking, you can say a lot with a look, etc.

If God made something better than a sista he's keeping it for himself. I've tried dating others as well, and even clicked but never like a sista.

 

[Deleted member 231]

No disrespect, just curious, you mean homies or dating or both? You never grew up with any non FBA homies? None in your area? Or you did and since you were a kid you just never f*cked with any?
Reason why I ask is this is a very unique view. Not saying you are right or wrong, you are doing you. I've never heard that before.
Anyway, thanks. If you don't wish to comment, that's fine.

I mean no new white friends. If I don't know em from back in the gap, then we probably can't be friends. I have neither the time nor the patience anymore for off code negroes or liberal whites. For me to be friends with a white person, they better have that John Brown/Gary Webb energy. Otherwise we can remain work associates, basketball teammates, or friendly neighbors.

 

[Kanu]

I should know better and no disrespect. I don't know much about either of you but I can't think of anyone on here who posts regularly who isn't pro black. I just read posts and not pay much attention to much else.
What makes him not B1? I have read his posts and didn't get that impression but I could have just not paid attention. I didn't even know the religious aspect at all.

Unfortunately people like him are more worried about pushing a doctrine than bringing the truth. I want our people to find out who they are and what they are supposed to do to be saved. There will be none of this phony "unity" when the dollar crash and people start killing each other so they won't starve.

 

[RCNAL]

How people on 000000.net break up with their partner these days