The Cookout

[Finesse]

Marriage isn't as popular as it once was, in fact I think less and less people get married now days than ever. I myself am not sure about marriage. I feel I could date a woman for the rest of my life and not need to get married. I've known people who've dated for years and marriage was something they felt wasn't needed. They felt marriage was old fashioned and behind the times.

I honestly don't care for the idea of marriage. If I met the right woman, sure I'd get married, but if I met a woman who never wanted to, I'd be okay with that too. And honestly, do we need to get married to be happy with someone? I know many do it these days because of benefits, and for tax purposes. Which is a plus for marriage, but could you go your whole life as being in a relationship with someone, and not get married ever to that person?

 

[Goldilocks]

Honestly I never knew people had this huge issues with marriage until I came to the internet. I know a ton of happily married people. I have been to quite a few weddings and know of very few divorces. And the people I know who have been divorced all got remarried. This “issue” isn’t reflected in my real life.

However, with the massive about of individualism and get over culture that is rampant in the BC I can see how this is now a trend. Our children will continue to start from scratch over and over because “we don’t see the benefits” meanwhile every other cultures uses marriage as a tool for greatness.

BP still worried about WP when in reality Indians and Asian are out pacing us and WP by leaps and bounds via strong family structures and generational wealth.

 

[lexodyssey]

I don't think its as popular as it was but I don't think it's dying out either. I feel like most of my friends from school are either married or getting married. I think marriage is a necessary commitment in a relationship so it's definitely something I would look for if I felt like it was time in my relationship.

 

[Real One]

I don't agree it's dying out. I think it's slowed down a bit, but I have a feeling we'll see a trend of it making a comeback, where people do really want to get married.

And keep in mind, marriage does give a lot of benefits, so I consider it worth it to get married one day. I don't know if I need to get married, but if the woman I am dating wanted to, and we fit, I would for sure marry her. But if I met a woman who wasn't into marriage, I wouldn't push that on her either. But I'd discuss it and see if she changes her mind down the road.

But, I don't think marriage is dying. If anything it has its spikes of times where people lose interest in it, and times where everyone wants to get married. I really think it mainly depends on who it is you're dating and whether or not you can see each of you married.

 

[jasonrest]

marriage is a game.
wives and lawyers are winning.

 

[Jay]

I don't think the concept of marriage is dying but the way it is implemented here in the USA is. America has this tendency to over-correct and I think it's present in how divorces work. All Men need is for a lopsided custody % to be awarded to his soon to be ex-wife and he could potentially lose everything he has worked for.

Judge gives here 60% Custodial Custody and since she has the kids so much she needs the house and the car...yeah the house and car you was paying for the whole time.

Oh and you need to pay her alimony too! That type of abuse makes a lot of men think twice about making their long term relationships the business of the government.

 

[jasonrest]

I don't think the concept of marriage is dying but the way it is implemented here in the USA is. America has this tendency to over-correct and I think it's present in how divorces work. All Men need is for a lopsided custody % to be awarded to his soon to be ex-wife and he could potentially lose everything he has worked for.

Judge gives here 60% Custodial Custody and since she has the kids so much she needs the house and the car...yeah the house and car you was paying for the whole time.

Oh and you need to pay her alimony too! That type of abuse makes a lot of men think twice about making their long term relationships the business of the government.

better articulated than what I said but absolutely correct.
and public service announcement,

this "marriage dying out"
or better put "men signing off"
youre gonna see a lot more of it
until govt either corrects family court imbalances
or gets out of the marriage business altogether
and
both men and women come to
a reckoning and understand "their place"... again.

 

[Jay]

better articulated than what I said but absolutely correct.
and public service announcement,

this "marriage dying out"
or better put "men signing off"
youre gonna see a lot more of it
until govt either corrects family court imbalances
or gets out of the marriage business altogether
and
both men and women come to
a reckoning and understand "their place"... again.

Yeah all my friends who got divorced had to file bankruptcy. They basically have started over after divorce, it won’t stop me from getting married but I can see why others wouldn’t want to.

 

[Red Velvet]

Yeah all my friends who got divorced had to file bankruptcy. They basically have started over after divorce, it won’t stop me from getting married but I can see why others wouldn’t want to.

I’ve seen this too, it’s a cold world.