I hate when people say, “ There's no time frame for this event. Just enjoy” To me, as an introvert, that is code for “ This could be hours of pain so shut up”😫
What say you?
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Any Introverts Out There Have Serious Pet Peeves?
I hate when people say, “ There's no time frame for this event. Just enjoy” To me, as an introvert, that is code for “ This could be hours of pain so shut up”😫
What say you?
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small talk. Especially if I'm traveling and a passenger sees I'm tryna sleep or got my earbuds in and they keep interrupting me just to chit chat.
I’m not an introvert, but I hate when I’m visibly jamming with headphones in my ear and someone wants to talk to me.
I don’t know if this is directly related to me being an introvert but my pet peeve is when people waste my time. If I’m reaching out to you, to me, that’s worth something and so when people make commitments and then don’t see them through I feel like I wasted the more precious resource I have….my time.
I see what you mean. Truthfully, that does go for anyone, introvert or not. I don’t enjoy time wasters. For me, I already don’t like hanging out at gatherings too long. I prefer home or a nice movie, but it’s kind of like churches that last too long and folks say, “ We leave when the Holy Spirit says so”🙄I’m like, “ I’m out.”
Any type of get together at work is my pet peeve. I don’t want to get coffee, drinks, lunch, dinner, or party with anyone at work, no thanks. Check please!
People asking “why are you so quiet”?
Ugh hate that! I’m loud with familiar fam lol! I agree.
People that drop by unexpectedly.......call first if I want to be bothered I'll answer. 👌🏾
I hate when people say, “ There's no time frame for this event. Just enjoy” To me, as an introvert, that is code for “ This could be hours of pain so shut up”😫
What say you?
Do you know what an introvert is?Yall sound miserable.
I used to be like that too (still am for the most part) but at the end of the day we are social beings...
Exactly.
huh??Yall sound miserable.
I used to be like that too (still am for the most part) but at the end of the day we are social beings...
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Who created this term "introvert"? Is it scientifically proven such a condition exists?
Basically you're allowing white people dictate how you live and interact with other humans..
I get what you’re saying. To white folks, placing people in proverbial boxes is a past time. However I have always been this way and there is a language for it.
When I eat, It's like I am having a conversation with my food. It's RUDE to interrupt. 😐
Nothing wrong with being the way you are, just be careful with the ideas and narratives you accept as reality.
Prove that the concept of an introvert is invalid. If you have nothing to disprove it then have yourself a seat.
But you have not presented anything that shows that introvert, extrovert, ambivert concepts are flawed so this statement applies more to you then it does to any one in here.
Live footage of you about to eat.
Somebody took this clip of me sitting down to eat, a while back. Sister Tati, dude decided to show up early for the meeting.
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Somebody took this clip of me sitting down to eat, a while back. Sister Tati, dude decided to show up early for the meeting.
That's something you learn with age and experience, i couldn't find any good article discussing it. (not surprising).
I find this article interesting even though it doesn't fully explain these false ideas. Introvert vs Extrovert? The Lies We Tell Ourselves - Charisma On Command
So you are gonna come in here and call people miserable, say that we need to watch what we ingest, say that introversion is a fraudulent concept made by white people and then when asked for a source you come with some random one that’s unscientific made by White people? Come on bruh.
I didn't call people miserable, i posted they SOUND miserable. But yea i shouldn't have said white people but pseudoscience mumbo jumbo for the masses. The source i posted is not unscientific unless youre talking about "peer reviewed science", but do you think people didn't practice science before the academy jargons?
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You know damn well that MF ain't nothin' but a got-damn clown. Idk why you even entertained his ass. He does this shit ALL. 👏🏾 THE. 👏🏾FUCKING. 👏🏾TIME. 👏🏾
He NEVER has ANYTHING of value to contribute to ANY conversation on this platform EVER.
The thing we must remember is we (introverts)existed long before the descriptive language. Still holds true.
Something that might help set this platform apart would be the ability or a system that weeds out TROLLS! Do I know what that looks like, fully? No. But I believe we will get there/develop it TOGETHER.
We already have that which is why the only troll here is Kanu he’s one of the originals and has been verified as Black so we let him rock.
Well, let me clarify what I mean when I say "Troll." Anyone (ESPECIALLY "Black") who "argues for the sake of arguing," or CONSISTENTLY says things that are not WISE, CONDUCIVE, RELEVANT or VAIN.
Here's the Code of Conduct:
It covers those exact issues and if a user is warned continuously via our internal system they will be auto-banned.
Let's be honest, most people just want to post around same minded users being in a comfortable circlejerk platform, with no real thought provoking discussions.
You may not like my posts but i'm the one keeping this place healthy for everybody.
You may not like my posts but i'm the one keeping this place healthy for everybody.
You do exist but the question is why and how? Would introverts exist if we lived in a society that did not enable or promote this behavior?
Waitaminute. The introverts are cooking you right now, don't make the rest of the Community here gang up on you too. That's a pretty bold and inaccurate statement on this fine Shabbat.
Happy Shabbat for you sister.
We could use this beautiful day to analyze if the words we use are really accurate or we use them simply out of school/academic indoctrination.
Okay, so I'm confused then. Because I'm reading this brother's comment and it checks those boxes. And as I understand it, he does this CONSISTENTLY? 😕Here's the Code of Conduct:
It covers those exact issues and if a user is warned continuously via our internal system they will be auto-banned.
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My pet peeve is when neighbors or co-workers see you and you clearly have somewhere to be or something to do, and they just can't say hello and keep it pushing. They wanna try and pull you into a full fledged conversation. I could have an arm full of groceries and my kid tugging at my leg and these folks really wanna chit chat like I ain't got somewhere to be.
When extroverts want you to "get out of your shell" and speak to them as they demand your energy, response, cooperation, and attention. When people try to get into your business and exploit your weaknesses while pretending their intentions are "to be helpful" and "innocuous". When people act threatened, intimidated, weirded out, or some other kind of way when you prefer to keep to yourself and do your own thing while only trying to interact when you feel like it. And then when you do speak to them, vast majority of the time they end up not even wanting to interact with or speak to you like that after all and they feel comfortable talking about you, disrespecting or ignoring you.
"Why don't you talk?" is another common variation.
And then later on they'll tell you that "your voice carries" and that you're "too loud."
Then they're eventually trying to get you to shut up again whenever you try to "interrupt" them or say anything they disagree with or don't like.
Many quiet women also get the "you should smile more" comments when we're too quiet and don't smile 100% of the time.