You can’t give absolutes when you aint dealing with constants. People change, circumstances change, wants/needs change, paths change and with that can come shifts that change the way you look at ish. We can look at it like Rocafella. Dame was the engine in that ish in the beginning, his hustle, drive, uncompromising attitude propelled them into stardom and made them millionaires. But after they became millionaire his hustle, drive, uncompromising attitude became their biggest weakness. The circumstances of their relationship changed and Jay changed with the circumstances, dame didnt and that made them bump heads. I dont know them niggas personally but you can see how dame was barking on Def Jam execs and acting like a NY street nigga in corporate settings while this nigga Jay going to art galleries. The things that made Dame the perfect partner for Jay in the beginning now put them at odds. It’s like that in life and sometimes it dont even be no hard feelings.
Yeah i get that people change. Just sucks I guess, because ya kinda lose hope when you see two people who once loved each other peace out. But I suppose people change, times change, and people lose interest.
I have read each reply and believe you are all right, but what I didn't read is that "Love" is more than emotion and feeling it also requires commitment as well and that is some hard work, don't misunderstand me if 2 people do not have love for one another the wis think to do is part ways. Nothing is forever we only get one life so love on who your with love on them hard make sure they know and make sure you tell your lover you want the same to be loved on and know it, most of all be honest to each other.
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For sure, commitment is key. And if there is no longer love between the two, then I suppose it's best to just move on. There could still be love there for sure, but it's different love.
You destined for anything and everything to happen, it’s all in the decisions you make. A relationship is two agendas merging together but overtime what if those two agendas diverge? You either reconcile, live unhappily, or split. It takes effort which is why you shouldn’t be in it if you aren’t committed to it.
I 100% agree. If there is no love left to give then splitting up would probably be best for both sides. It's better than living unhappily as well.
If you go into a relationship with the idea and the concept of "falling in love" then yes. I don't believe in falling in love, I believe in falling in lust. It is healthy and very natural for people to have this happen but you can't put love and lust on the same platform. Love is commitment and follow-through. It is a choice. Lust comes and goes but real love lasts. Just my opinion on it.
I can see that. When I meet a woman, it's mostly lust to begin with, but eventually it may turn into love. For me when it comes to love, it's more than just sex. Love is the point where you look forward to going home to see her, or you get depressed thinking about the future when she won't be there. That's how I feel at least.
Yes you can fall out of love/like, I've been in my marriage over 2 decades and feelings can fluctuate, it can depend on a bunch of factors and situations. Some days I wake up and can't stand to be around my wife, and there are days where I want her around all the time.
over time things wear out, even feelings.
Yeah that's what scares me. Because right now I am madly in love with my girlfriend. The idea of living with her the rest of my life is something I want to do. But I do fear the possibility of the two of us losing interest in one another. But I guess I should just live for now and see where it takes me.
