That's a high ass bar someone has to climb.
If the guy is a "bare minimum" kind of guy, then yeah I can imagine how high a bar that might be. C students are that way because they don't earn enough A-pluses. What I demand I intend to supply in kind. So if a guy feels the bar is "too high", I'm cool with that, we can be friends, business partners, confidants, colleagues, anything other than a couple. Because for me, the bare minimum is not impressive to me. This is how you get your time wasted trying to fit square pegs in round holes. If the man in question is fucking bringing it and I mean BRINGING IT in all capacities of our interactions and engagements both planned and spontaneous and does so, consistently, then that's a man who's speaks my language.
And I'm not saying bare minimum guys are bad, I'm saying don't come looking for a gold star from me if your arguing point is "I'm a decent person." Well SO TF AM I! YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BE A DECENT PERSON! Like I said, if a guy wants a standing ovation, ticker tape parades, and statues hoisted in their likeness for doing shit they're supposed to do in GENERAL. IN THE FIRST PLACE. I'm not who they lookin for. They want all the privilege and acknowledgement of an A+ student while bringing C average work. No Sir. You get out what you put in.
And let me be clear, I'm not even saying someone who wants those simpler things is wrong either. That's a preference and a perfectly good one at that. For some people, simple means something else. Something better; because maybe they had "difficult" and "hard" a lot of the time, so simple and easy sounds like a dream. What I am saying is, to me, simple is basic and basic is mediocre. I'm not mediocre. I strive for excellence in every aspect of my life. If you can't bring that to the table, then leave any thoughts of romance with me at the door, and instead, let's simply work together so we can help build our communities into the strongholds they need to be for our people.
My definitions are different, my standards are different and my expectations are different. I know that and I am uncompromising about it. At the end of the day, as long as I'm willing to give what I'm asking for, which I am, the person who CAN answer the call won't view our relationship as a "high bar" to be met.
They have to be better than the nigga you imagine in your dream GOOD LAWD.
No. They have to be better than the nigga who THINKS he's a dream when really he's a C student who's looking for A+ student acknowledgement. Also, and I'm only going to address this once, don't gaslight me. You have excellent questions and points to ponder. But so do I. And if our difference in philosophy or opinion on this topic is going to lead you to need to resort to that, then the conversation has ran it's course and I don't need to engage you any further. We can simply agree to disagree. Now if you've felt I've gas-lit you, came at you disrespectfully, wrong or any kind of sideways, then I offer my sincere apologies as it wasn't my intention. But you tried it and I really don't appreciate it.
My dream partner is grounded in the nonsense we see in today's world so having all that is a dream.
Yo man, that's what's up! I'm down for whatever works for people. Do whatever and live however you feel gets you to that point of happy. We only get one shot at this thing called life so we gotta make sure we get out of it whatever it is that we're looking for.
Uncompromisingly.
