Kendra G show. Black woman ex husband white, one daughter. Divorced after catching him in the act smashing another sista. Attractive, makes six figures, educated. Prefers black men now. Is her past (marriage, child) a deal breaker?
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Fellas, Would You Date Her?
Depends on what her mindstate is. Not every sista that has dated a White man is a divester.
I'm good. Pretty much every brotha I know dated a Becky, myself included. Pretty much every sista I know who grew up in the suburbs or worked in an office dated at least one white boy if not a non black guy (Latino, Arab, etc).
That's normal. Three things struck me that made me pass. First, she met him on a dating app. It wasn't organic. Meaning maybe at the same job, same health club, struck up a convo and it developed. She met him on a dating app meaning she swiped right. So, maybe he was just someone interesting among black men or she was specifically looking for white men. I'm going with the latter. Second, marriage is a helluva commitment. Maybe she just happened marry a guy she vibed with. She said before him she 'didn't date much'. Hmm...that suggests something to me. I won't just now. Last, she is from Grenada in the Caribbean. Most of the Caribbean girls I knew who were born, grew up in part in the islands, married either another person from their island or a white boy. It was either or both.
She may be what I was saying in the other thread on interracial dating. A lot of them will go the other route, get ran through or a bad experience and come back.
For me, I'd have to be sure she's pro Black. George Lucas' wife Mellody Hobson a sista, seems pro black to me. I say that because she's usually credited with him making Red Tails, the Tuskeegee airmen movie. She opened his eyes to institutional racism in Hollywood. He said he had a lot of trouble getting the movie done. I hear him say once. He said that he's George Lucas, movie studios roll out the red carpet for him, they have always financed his projects since Star Wars became a hit in 1976 and they were fighting him on making this even though his name was all over it and he had big names at the time: Cuba Gooding Jr, Terrence Howard, Neyo the singer, a younger Michael B. Jordan, Method Man had an appearance. The studios fought him on it an he had put up a lot of his own money.
She also used his money to buy the Ebony photo library so it wouldn't go into non black hands.
The sista above is cute and refined but I'd have to know where her head is at and she better be pro black AF..lol. Not lukewarm. Her paperwork is a bit dirty as it is. Just me, others may think she's fine enough and that's okay too. I'm not the dick detective. My only criteria for judging is are you pro or anti black and the medical doctor's creed 'Do no harm'.
That's normal. Three things struck me that made me pass. First, she met him on a dating app. It wasn't organic. Meaning maybe at the same job, same health club, struck up a convo and it developed. She met him on a dating app meaning she swiped right. So, maybe he was just someone interesting among black men or she was specifically looking for white men. I'm going with the latter. Second, marriage is a helluva commitment. Maybe she just happened marry a guy she vibed with. She said before him she 'didn't date much'. Hmm...that suggests something to me. I won't just now. Last, she is from Grenada in the Caribbean. Most of the Caribbean girls I knew who were born, grew up in part in the islands, married either another person from their island or a white boy. It was either or both.
She may be what I was saying in the other thread on interracial dating. A lot of them will go the other route, get ran through or a bad experience and come back.
For me, I'd have to be sure she's pro Black. George Lucas' wife Mellody Hobson a sista, seems pro black to me. I say that because she's usually credited with him making Red Tails, the Tuskeegee airmen movie. She opened his eyes to institutional racism in Hollywood. He said he had a lot of trouble getting the movie done. I hear him say once. He said that he's George Lucas, movie studios roll out the red carpet for him, they have always financed his projects since Star Wars became a hit in 1976 and they were fighting him on making this even though his name was all over it and he had big names at the time: Cuba Gooding Jr, Terrence Howard, Neyo the singer, a younger Michael B. Jordan, Method Man had an appearance. The studios fought him on it an he had put up a lot of his own money.
She also used his money to buy the Ebony photo library so it wouldn't go into non black hands.
The sista above is cute and refined but I'd have to know where her head is at and she better be pro black AF..lol. Not lukewarm. Her paperwork is a bit dirty as it is. Just me, others may think she's fine enough and that's okay too. I'm not the dick detective. My only criteria for judging is are you pro or anti black and the medical doctor's creed 'Do no harm'.
I couldn't handle the nasally voice but I agree with previous sentiments in that her mind state would be what determines if I would date her. She definitely passes the aesthetics test if we are going there.
The positive is she pretty much only wants a black guy but for me, its for the wrong reasons. White boy cheated on her. That's bad and all but black men, all men cheat. The issue is who she chose, she chose a cheater. It has nothing to do with race but she kinda did.
I'm good.
But as I said though, she looks good, is intelligent. If you are doing sales, you have to be an extrovert and pick up on people's vibes, etc, She was trying not say she was married to a Brad though....lol. She's from Grenada and I'm sorry but I think its one of those white jesus, bedwench mindsets and then got her wake up call kinda.
I'm good.
But as I said though, she looks good, is intelligent. If you are doing sales, you have to be an extrovert and pick up on people's vibes, etc, She was trying not say she was married to a Brad though....lol. She's from Grenada and I'm sorry but I think its one of those white jesus, bedwench mindsets and then got her wake up call kinda.
I know this is for the fellas, but I only have one question:
Why didn't she date her own kind first?
One more question: Can all you men see through all the fake hair, eye lashes & makeup or does that even matter as long as you can hit?
I think it's an age thing I used to think like that in my early 20's but by my late 20's I saw the world and women differently by the time I had my first daughter I REALLY understood. My point being it's a case by case basis and until you get to know someone it's no use making assumptions about their life or what they've gone through. Keeping it real though the percentage of men of means that will even approach Sis is very low that's just life in general and she has to be approachable some of us grow into the mindset some of us hold onto old bad habits well into our 40's it's cool to have standards just make sure you're not being hypocritical about the process.
It's not simp behavior it's real man shit! ✊🏿👍🏿✌🏿
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I dont think I would date her. I do not find her all that attractive. That's my personal opinion. She should've divorced him. If I find her personality appealing enough, I would give her a chance despite her looks. Her dating White men in the past is not a deal breaker.
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I definitely see things differently now that I am in my 30s compared to my 20s.
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Good question. I am not sure. All I can see are the things you mentioned.
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I love women with no children as well since I don't want to help take care of children that are not mine.
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Who are 
you to judge someone cause she was married to a white man how many of you are married to white woman on this thread if so what makes you any different and before you ask I'm married to a black man .
Keke Petty
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More Black males marry/date non-Black women than Black women with non-Black men. If you feel like she is not worthy would you feel the same if she was white and he Black?
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I would feel the same way. I don't like interracialness personally. I am respectful of those who are in those relationships. I do want folks to be happy.
As I've said, pretty much all blacks, men or women, have at the very least went on a date with a non black person, white person, etc.
I have, most of you have. My preference has always been sisters and that's the only one I'd marry.
That said, and I said this on another thread. Sisters I've seen whose preference is white men, that's all they want to date, are almost always anti black male/ anti black people. Not all, I know 2 that are super cool. But the rest, nah. Look at the swirling community of sisters, they are so anti black male they are actually advocating aborting black male babies.
On the other hand, I've known a fair amount of brothers who won't date sisters anymore. They come in a few different categories. Some will only date a non black women. Some will not date an American sista. They'll date a black DR, Brazilian, native African or white or whomever, but have an issue with American sisters. Most of those are anti black women or anti black American women. Either one, I'm not cool with.
As for this sista specifically, I would not take the chance personally. Even though she only wants a brotha now, her reason for not wanting a white man anymore isn't rooted in white supremacy. She got cheated on by ONE white man so now she only wants a brotha. Huh? Brothers cheat too. So, what's she gonna do if a brotha cheats on her? Go strictly Latino or Asian?
I don't hear anything pro black at all except her dating choices based on a personal situation. Nah, I'm good.
I have, most of you have. My preference has always been sisters and that's the only one I'd marry.
That said, and I said this on another thread. Sisters I've seen whose preference is white men, that's all they want to date, are almost always anti black male/ anti black people. Not all, I know 2 that are super cool. But the rest, nah. Look at the swirling community of sisters, they are so anti black male they are actually advocating aborting black male babies.
On the other hand, I've known a fair amount of brothers who won't date sisters anymore. They come in a few different categories. Some will only date a non black women. Some will not date an American sista. They'll date a black DR, Brazilian, native African or white or whomever, but have an issue with American sisters. Most of those are anti black women or anti black American women. Either one, I'm not cool with.
As for this sista specifically, I would not take the chance personally. Even though she only wants a brotha now, her reason for not wanting a white man anymore isn't rooted in white supremacy. She got cheated on by ONE white man so now she only wants a brotha. Huh? Brothers cheat too. So, what's she gonna do if a brotha cheats on her? Go strictly Latino or Asian?
I don't hear anything pro black at all except her dating choices based on a personal situation. Nah, I'm good.