The Cookout

[DaBeast]

I was inspired to make this topic after seeing sourgrapes thread here - So a friend wants to set me up...

But I wanted to take a different spin on it. That spin being, what if your friend(s) decided to set you up with someone, but didn't say they were going to do so. They then spring this person on you, and in turn cause confusion and paranoia. Has that sort of thing ever happened to you? Blind dates are one thing, but this is definitely going in blind.

It kinda happened to me, but wasn't too bad. It was at a school dance, and one of my friends decided to set me up with a girl I went to school with, to dance with of course. I didn't like this girl any bit to be honest, and when they tried to set me up, I freaked out and went to the bathroom. In turn, I probably made her feel like utter shit at the time, because she probably didn't know I didn't ask to be set up. But yeah, my friends made fun of me for it and I ended up going home soon after.

I at least want to know who you want to set me up with, because who knows who they will set you up with. Just causes awkward situations.

 

[sourgrapes]

I would feel uncomfortable if someone did this. I know it happened to a friend of mine and things got awkward real fast. Like she legit was so uncomfortable, she faked being sick to leave. I am fine with being set up but I need details and need to decide before anything happens in person. You can't just fling someone on me I had never met before.

 

[lexodyssey]

I've never had this happen but I wouldn't like it at all. It's your choice to decide if you want to see someone or not so I feel like that's taking that choice away and forcing it. It would also make me uncomfortable with the friend because I'd be afraid they were going to do that again.

 

[DaBeast]

I would feel uncomfortable if someone did this. I know it happened to a friend of mine and things got awkward real fast. Like she legit was so uncomfortable, she faked being sick to leave. I am fine with being set up but I need details and need to decide before anything happens in person. You can't just fling someone on me I had never met before.

Yeah exactly. Let me know before you try to set me up with someone. It's kinda messed up to set someone up without telling them. Actually, it's not about telling them, it's more about not being asked first. I think they should ask us if we want to be set up.

I'd probably fake being sick too in the situation.

I've never had this happen but I wouldn't like it at all. It's your choice to decide if you want to see someone or not so I feel like that's taking that choice away and forcing it. It would also make me uncomfortable with the friend because I'd be afraid they were going to do that again.

Yes, a choice we should be able to make. No one should spring a person on you out of the blue. It would be uncomfortable for sure. On top of that, the person they set you up with, may not have known as well, so that person then causes two people to feel uncomfortable.

 

[sourgrapes]

Yeah exactly. Let me know before you try to set me up with someone. It's kinda messed up to set someone up without telling them. Actually, it's not about telling them, it's more about not being asked first. I think they should ask us if we want to be set up.

I'd probably fake being sick too in the situation.

I think some people just take things upon themselves cause in their own world, they know best and they think they are helping. Most people hate being set up on dates, especially if you don't ask them first. Like I can't imagine one of my friends just showing up with some dude and expecting me to be happy about it.

 

[Jay]

This is one of those things that is absolute deplorable if they setting you up with Lizzo but make them the best friends ever if it’s Halle Berry.

Like Suga Free says “if you stay ready you ain’t got to get ready”. If you on point and you choosable and the homies slide a shorty over your way no harm, no foul.

If she ain’t your cup of tea you can use the common “it’s not you it’s me” type line and be on some “yo I got a lot on my mind right now I’m just tryna kick it but give me your number and I’ll call you”

Then you…

…and then be ready for her to be looking at you like:



When she see you go against what you told her because you got a drink in your hand and Mackin on some shorty who can’t stop laughing.

 

[Harbinger]

I've never had this happen but I wouldn't like it at all. It's your choice to decide if you want to see someone or not so I feel like that's taking that choice away and forcing it. It would also make me uncomfortable with the friend because I'd be afraid they were going to do that again.

I feel it’s different for a woman to be paired up with a guy unexpectantly than vice verse. A woman being brought to a man is like a fresh kill being brought to a hunter.

 

[Jay]

I feel it’s different for a woman to be paired up with a guy unexpectantly than vice verse. A woman being brought to a man is like a fresh kill being brought to a hunter.

Well said.

 

[HeffDawg]

I was inspired to make this topic after seeing sourgrapes thread here - So a friend wants to set me up...

But I wanted to take a different spin on it. That spin being, what if your friend(s) decided to set you up with someone, but didn't say they were going to do so. They then spring this person on you, and in turn cause confusion and paranoia. Has that sort of thing ever happened to you? Blind dates are one thing, but this is definitely going in blind.

It kinda happened to me, but wasn't too bad. It was at a school dance, and one of my friends decided to set me up with a girl I went to school with, to dance with of course. I didn't like this girl any bit to be honest, and when they tried to set me up, I freaked out and went to the bathroom. In turn, I probably made her feel like utter ish at the time, because she probably didn't know I didn't ask to be set up. But yeah, my friends made fun of me for it and I ended up going home soon after.

I at least want to know who you want to set me up with, because who knows who they will set you up with. Just causes awkward situations.

I feel you but this is mad theoretical and most playas wouldn’t even flinch at being brought a lady unless it was interfering with an ambition already at play. Let’s say I’m moving in on a lady and I‘m putting my game down my partnas roll up with a new woman, VIOLATION! But outside if that it’s be welcomed and you can easily deflect if the lady isn’t what you desire.

 

[DaBeast]

I think some people just take things upon themselves cause in their own world, they know best and they think they are helping. Most people hate being set up on dates, especially if you don't ask them first. Like I can't imagine one of my friends just showing up with some dude and expecting me to be happy about it.

Yeah that's how I see it too. They think they are some hidden genius or something who think they know what I or anyone else wants.

This is one of those things that is absolute deplorable if they setting you up with Lizzo but make them the best friends ever if it’s Halle Berry.

Like Suga Free says “if you stay ready you ain’t got to get ready”. If you on point and you choosable and the homies slide a shorty over your way no harm, no foul.

If she ain’t your cup of tea you can use the common “it’s not you it’s me” type line and be on some “yo I got a lot on my mind right now I’m just tryna kick it but give me your number and I’ll call you”

Then you…

…and then be ready for her to be looking at you like:



When she see you go against what you told her because you got a drink in your hand and Mackin on some shorty who can’t stop laughing.

Sure, if it was Halle Berry they were setting me up with, I wouldn't make a fuss. I wouldn't be too mad about it, yeah I'd be anxious as all hell, but I'd get over it. Now if it was Lizzo, oh boy, sorry, but I'm out. A true friend would know the type of women you're attracted to and at least set me up with someone I might be into.

Also, reminds me of the time I was on a dating site and hit this one chick up, she then said I'd be a better fit with her friend, and set me up to talk to her who was a bit on the heavier side and wasn't my type really at all.

I feel it’s different for a woman to be paired up with a guy unexpectantly than vice verse. A woman being brought to a man is like a fresh kill being brought to a hunter.

Yeah it's gotta be a weirder situation for women. I picture women being set up with creepy old white dudes for some reason, and that creeps me the hell out more.

I feel you but this is mad theoretical and most playas wouldn’t even flinch at being brought a lady unless it was interfering with an ambition already at play. Let’s say I’m moving in on a lady and I‘m putting my game down my partnas roll up with a new woman, VIOLATION! But outside if that it’s be welcomed and you can easily deflect if the lady isn’t what you desire.

I suppose so. But how would you react to a friend if they tried to set you up with someone you have no attraction to?

 

[HeffDawg]

I suppose so. But how would you react to a friend if they tried to set you up with someone you have no attraction to?

I’d say thank you I’m flattered but not interested.

 

[sourgrapes]

Yeah that's how I see it too. They think they are some hidden genius or something who think they know what I or anyone else wants.

Reminds me of family who are all "when you getting married" or "are you having kids?" and you are like damn, I am only in my mid-twenties, chill out!