It's easy to say hard AF to do. I found that I have to divorce myself emotionally or I will never get away. If I don't make a clean break meaning no sex or anything I will always go back, it's how I'm wired. My ex and I had a crap relationship with good sex and after we broke up we would fool around and all the emotions would come rushing back and then there we go trying again. I've learned and grown from that.
Isn't love something? I've had situations where I was in love and I kept going back over and over again hoping the situation would change. What I've come to accept is that when I leave, I leave for a reason. If it was worth saving I would have never left. It's just so difficult when your emotions are attached. It's easy to say what you will do when you're looking at it logically but when you involve emotions everything shifts.
Sis this is something we all go through. I always go back I even went back to a very emotionally abusive ex over and over. I'm reading a book on attachment styles to see if it can help me solve some emotional issues I have in relationships.
I’m glad to see you’re doing the work. Most anxious and avoidant attachment styles are attracted to each other. What style do you think you identify with? I used to be very avoidant and a little anxious (what a combo 😬) but I’ve been doing the work and I’m leaning more into the secure attachment style now. I still have some work to do but we’re all a work in progress.
I can relate. But I realized relationships are about honestly and vulnerability, and we choose to work it our or walk away. I used to leave quickly, but now I communicate my needs and set boundaries first. And if things still don’t work then their loss.
Was it hard getting to that point? A lot of people have those issues and just ride them until the wheels fall off.
