The Cookout

[sourgrapes]

I think we all have those turn-offs that signal something in our brains that makes us think "hell no" when someone we thought was attractive does something not up to our standards. In terms of bad habits or general habits you don't like, what are some that would put you off from dating someone you previously found attractive?

For me, one big one is excessive drinking. If you want to drink and party, you do you but I can't commit to something like that. I didn't like this when I was younger but now that I have future plans and want kids, that simply will not fly with me.

 

[Blackgravity]

Hygiene is number one! That includes how they keep their house, I would always look at 2 things in a females house/apartment. Her kitchen and bathroom. If either were filthy or messy, I can't.
Second turn off for me is if she looks like a different person without makeup, I was always attracted to the females with the natural look, ones that barely needed makeup. That caked on look was ridiculous to me. If your face don't match your neck, eww.

 

[TheHarmattan]

I think we all have those turn-offs that signal something in our brains that makes us think "hell no" when someone we thought was attractive does something not up to our standards. In terms of bad habits or general habits you don't like, what are some that would put you off from dating someone you previously found attractive?

For me, one big one is excessive drinking. If you want to drink and party, you do you but I can't commit to something like that. I didn't like this when I was younger but now that I have future plans and want kids, that simply will not fly with me.

Yeah, alcohol is a measuring instrument to let me know your overall mental health.

But you already know what I'm going to say next. LOL
She better not miss a pedi appointment. There is no excuse. If you are short on cash, you have a free bank with me.
She wants me to salt my hair weekly, so she should get a pedi every week too!

 

[TheHarmattan]

If she reveals that she likes...

View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9JwmB7tdaw



I am gone. Peace!

 

[Victorystatus]

Getting a glimpse of who they dating previously and the standards they had with that partner literally had me enraged. I felt like I had been lied to [by her] about what she wanted moving forward. I understand we go through taste change every 7yrs [mostly], then again I believe we call that baggage, in addition I was also going through a racial awakening while dating and in undergrad. I went to counseling afterwards and specifically sought out another black male to make sure I was clearly understood. The need to unbind in a healthy and constructive manner is very beneficial, given our RACIAL position here.

 

[HeffDawg]

Getting a glimpse of who they dating previously and the standards they had with that partner literally had me enraged. I felt like I had been lied to [by her] about what she wanted moving forward. I understand we go through taste change every 7yrs [mostly], then again I believe we call that baggage, in addition I was also going through a racial awakening while dating and in undergrad. I went to counseling afterwards and specifically sought out another black male to make sure I was clearly understood. The need to unbind in a healthy and constructive manner is very beneficial, given our RACIAL position here.

I’m nit picking up what you’re putting down playa…what happened?

 

[Victorystatus]

I’m nit picking up what you’re putting down playa…what happened?

She dated this grimey dude before she met me and this man had her looking bad. She meets me discovers Feminism and wants to get married, I met him at a function in College and he kept it real about he did her dirty. He told about some of things she did with him and how he thinks she's doing a good job trying to clean up her image.

 

[sourgrapes]

Yeah, alcohol is a measuring instrument to let me know your overall mental health.

But you already know what I'm going to say next. LOL
She better not miss a pedi appointment. There is no excuse. If you are short on cash, you have a free bank with me.
She wants me to salt my hair weekly, so she should get a pedi every week too!

You and your damn feet LOL But hey, I can't knock you for having those standards. A lot of women are walking around looking like they lived underground for 20 years. Like girl, wash your feet and trim your nails. I think feet are gross in general, even well kept ones but the ones that aren't taken care of?

 

[James]

For me one thing I don't like that show up with makeup and behaving like she is Miss world as I love simple girl and I always judge them by their appearance.

 

[TheHarmattan]

You and your damn feet LOL But hey, I can't knock you for having those standards. A lot of women are walking around looking like they lived underground for 20 years. Like girl, wash your feet and trim your nails. I think feet are gross in general, even well kept ones but the ones that aren't taken care of?

Men feet are never to be talked about, seen, referenced or photographed. That is a crime😂👌

 

[sourgrapes]

Men feet are never to be talked about, seen, referenced or photographed. That is a crime😂👌

I don't know about all that but then again, maybe if they were shown more, people would be taking better care of them like they do their hands. I know plenty of women who spend $200+ a month on manicures and fake nails but they seldom include their feet.

 

[TheHarmattan]

I don't know about all that but then again, maybe if they were shown more, people would be taking better care of them like they do their hands. I know plenty of women who spend $200+ a month on manicures and fake nails but they seldom include their feet.

Can I borrow...?

 

[GwynShivers]

Sloppy appearance & odor, breath & otherwise.

 

[GwynShivers]

I don't know about all that but then again, maybe if they were shown more, people would be taking better care of them like they do their hands. I know plenty of women who spend $200+ a month on manicures and fake nails but they seldom include their feet.

When I did frequent the shops, manicure & pedicure was what it was. Been doing my own for at least 10 years & have all the equipment & all.

 

[GwynShivers]

Men feet are never to be talked about, seen, referenced or photographed. That is a crime😂👌

I take care of my husband's feet. Not soft as a baby's bottom like mine, but not tearing up the sheets & his socks either. 🤣🤣

 

[SIXDIMENSIONS]

I say Cocaine. Joking but seriously. But on a liter note panties hanging in the bathroom. And pads and pons in the garbage can.

 

[Trillfate]

I don't have a bunch of pre determined turn offs but i know em when i see em. Also im the type that can find the sexiness in a woman's faults or whatever

 

[SIXDIMENSIONS]

Hygiene is number one! That includes how they keep their house, I would always look at 2 things in a females house/apartment. Her kitchen and bathroom. If either were filthy or messy, I can't.
Second turn off for me is if she looks like a different person without makeup, I was always attracted to the females with the natural look, ones that barely needed makeup. That caked on look was ridiculous to me. If your face don't match your neck, eww.

The crib.Yea. You can tell if someone cleans sometimes or Never.lol

 

[Deleted member 231]

She dated this grimey dude before she met me and this man had her looking bad. She meets me discovers Feminism and wants to get married, I met him at a function in College and he kept it real about he did her dirty. He told about some of things she did with him and how he thinks she's doing a good job trying to clean up her image.

she ate his booty?????

 

[Tati 304]

Doesn't do what he say he is going to do or is broke.

 

[Victorystatus]

she ate his booty?????

I didn't ask but the way buddy got down I wouldn't be surprised.

 

[Ubiquity]

At first, it's bad breath, bad mannerisms and general unexplained horrible hygiene. In the long run, I cannot stand for liars, mens who need cheerleaders or lost in the sauce in politics, current events or a smorgasbord of subjects.


Growing up my brother had friend named Collin, finer than a cup of peppermint ice tea in a Mississippi swamp! Still fine as hell to this day, but bro is as dumb as a pile of bricks in a hammock..

 

[Red Velvet]

At first, it's bad breath, bad mannerisms and general unexplained horrible hygiene. In the long run, I cannot stand for liars, mens who need cheerleaders or lost in the sauce in politics, current events or a smorgasbord of subjects.


Growing up my brother had friend named Collin, finer than a cup of peppermint ice tea in a Mississippi swamp! Still fine as hell to this day, but bro is as dumb as a pile of bricks in a hammock..

Bad hygiene and lack of intelligence take me from

to

In seconds.

 

[porter66]

I think we all have those turn-offs that signal something in our brains that makes us think "hell no" when someone we thought was attractive does something not up to our standards. In terms of bad habits or general habits you don't like, what are some that would put you off from dating someone you previously found attractive?

For me, one big one is excessive drinking. If you want to drink and party, you do you but I can't commit to something like that. I didn't like this when I was younger but now that I have future plans and want kids, that simply will not fly with me.

Hygiene, Hygiene,Hygiene,Hygiene and in case I wasn't clear Hygiene.

 

[Red Velvet]

Hygiene, Hygiene,Hygiene,Hygiene and in case I wasn't clear Hygiene.

Let me put one more for you….HYGIENE.

 

[porter66]

I think we understand each other.

 

[Red Velvet]

I think we understand each other.

Kindred spirits.

 

[Ubiquity]

From my experience, some mens just don't have anyone that love them. Wasn't raised right or raised by heathens.. which doesn't make them a bad person. Bad hygiene is almost telling of the class of people that you're used to being around. Although there will need to be a lot of patience needed with these individuals. It can work.. unfortunately there is an age limit to this sentiment.

If he is over 26 and doesn't have a clue.. bro for the streets!

 

[James]

I think most of people are telling that Hygiene is key when you go for dating and most of us agree on it that bad hygiene may put of from relationship.