The Cookout

They make it hard to be a
" gentleman " anymore.....too many men have too much to lose when they are accused of sexual harassment and its found out its not true. Unfortunately we rarely ever hear that a guy has been cleared of those accusations.....and there's NO repercussions for the female accuser.....!

When I was in high school, I was always very shy. I would rarely approach girls to talk to them. It would have to be blatantly obvious that she was giving me choosing vibes for me to say something. I didn't want to get rejected so I would shy away from talking to them.

When I got older though I learned a bit more and became less shy. I eventually got to the point where I was just bold and didn't care about getting rejected. I just figured worst case scenario is that she says no, or she is taken. If that happened then, I just move on and don't worry about it. She has the right to turn me down just like I have the right to turn a lady I'm not interested in down. My thinking changed to that I could see a girl that I really thought was hot and I was too shy to say something, and I miss out on a great opportunity. I decided I wasn't going to let any opportunity pass me up. So, If I was interested even a little bit, I was shooting my shot.

Social media has ruined us. We can't just be human beings anymore. If a woman is attractive, then yes guys are going to glance or look at her. That's the whole definition of attractive. They are attracted to you thus they will look.
If they aren't looking, then it probably means you are effing ugly!

But now even if a woman is attractive and there is a guy that she may have been interested in she won't know if he is also interested because he is afraid to even look in her direction.

So, if he is that afraid to even look at her then what is the likelihood that he would actually approach her to talk? Very low.

I don't understand how people ever hook up now. Just the statistics of it don't work. Unless you are very aesthecally attractive as a guy online usually doesn't work. If a woman is attractive it is likely that she is getting hundreds of DMs online. With that being she is going to pick the cream of the crop as far as looks, finances and anything else that she is choosy about.

So that is a very difficult field to have to navigate. Simply approaching women face to face out in public isn't really a socially safe thing to do either. So exactly how are guys supposed to meet women?


And I think that is why so many women are remaining single because guys that may have been interested aren't approaching.

Women doing this for clicks and views need to stop because they aren't just hurting themselves. They are hurting all women's chances to meet someone!

Be in the gym like

Jay said:

If I know her I’d do it for one set. If I don’t know her:



Not because of race but more so because I ain’t no damn simp. Hold your own ankles!

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I stick my feet under my sectional. And a 1, 2, 3, 4....

RCNAL said:

I am not a huge gym rat. I tend to try and exercise on my own but not in big huge gyms. And if I can possibly help it NEVER around non Black women. White women and Asian women because they see themselves as honorary White, can get you in trouble for any ol' thing.

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Not seen anything like this at my gym, but will remain vigilant. Thanks for the reminder 👍🏿

RCNAL said:

What if some white girl on the mat and say she need you to hold her ankles while she do sit ups? lol....I'd love to see or any brother on here face and how you try and get out of it...haha

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I'm ugly, last time i approached a girl she called the police.

😌 I've never been a gym rat.

Redd*Blitz said:

😌 I've never been a gym rat.

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I've my own equipment.