The Cookout

[Mud City Savage]

As in you don't know how you landed this one. Each girlfriend I had I like to think were beautiful, I still do for the majority of them, but I wouldn't say they were out of my league. I asked this one girl out, who happened to be a cheerleader, but she flat out said no and walked away. lol. She was, imo a 10/10.

What about you though? Ever dated someone who was out of your league? Either it being she/he was better looking than you, or you were better looking than them.

I'm probably uglier than the girls I dated though.

 

[Blackgravity]

No, for me a girl can be a dime but if her attitude is blah.. She automatically looks like a 4 to me.
Looks play about 30% the attitude, nature hygiene, and character is what I look at.
But no, never out of my league.

 

[Jay]

This is beta male talk. I’d you consider someone out of your league you need to go find your confidence.

If you think she out your league you won’t keep her cuz you’re always going to question why she with you.

Then you going to see her around dudes you think are better than you and it’ll eat you alive and you’ll start acting dysfunctional and drive her way.

Which proves to you that she was out of your league and reinforcing your inferiority. The only person out of my league is the me ima be tomorrow.

 

[Blackgravity]

This is beta male talk. I’d you consider someone out of your league you need to go find your confidence.

If you think she out your league you won’t keep her cuz you’re always going to question why she with you.

Then you going to see her around dudes you think are better than you and it’ll eat you alive and you’ll start acting dysfunctional and drive her way.

Which proves to you that she was out of your league and reinforcing your inferiority. The only person out of my league is the me ima be tomorrow.

Damn, you didn't hold back... Lol
No joke I was going to say something similar.
But didn't want to come off cocky (not saying you did)
But I agree.

 

[Jay]

Damn, you didn't hold back... Lol
No joke I was going to say something similar.
But didn't want to come off cocky (not saying you did)
But I agree.

Sugar coating doesn't help anyone.

 

[Deleted member 231]

Sugar coating doesn't help anyone.

As in you don't know how you landed this one. Each girlfriend I had I like to think were beautiful, I still do for the majority of them, but I wouldn't say they were out of my league. I asked this one girl out, who happened to be a cheerleader, but she flat out said no and walked away. lol. She was, imo a 10/10.

What about you though? Ever dated someone who was out of your league? Either it being she/he was better looking than you, or you were better looking than them.

I'm probably uglier than the girls I dated though.

Patrice o' Neal came up with a scale on rating women from 1-30. 1-10 is ugly chicks, 11-20 aight chicks, 21-30 fine chicks. So there are now degrees to how good looking a woman is and how ugly they are. THe way he described it as "fine ass fine chicks, fine ass ugly chicks, and ugly ass fine chicks." His theory was that if you used this scale it gave you the correct amount of swag to approach a woman and not have to gas her up to be better looking than she really was. But a woman is only out of your league if your finances aren't straight. and your game ain't tight.

 

[Jay]

Patrice o' Neal came up with a scale on rating women from 1-30. 1-10 is ugly chicks, 11-20 aight chicks, 21-30 fine chicks. So there are now degrees to how good looking a woman is and how ugly they are. THe way he described it as "fine ass fine chicks, fine ass ugly chicks, and ugly ass fine chicks." His theory was that if you used this scale it gave you the correct amount of swag to approach a woman and not have to gas her up to be better looking than she really was. But a woman is only out of your league if your finances aren't straight. and your game ain't tight.

Wow man that’s a dope scale I like that a lot.

 

[Dollene]

Yes. Having a partner with way more experience, intellect, resources etc. can be problematic. Especially if you want different things.

 

[Nesut]

Yes. Having a partner with way more experience, intellect, resources etc. can be problematic. Especially if you want different things.

But what if yall working together as a unit and the partner with more experience and resources is going to upgrade you?

 

[Dollene]

But what if yall working together as a unit and the partner with more experience and resources is going to upgrade you?

Creating an environment that enhances who your partner is fundamentally is great. If you want the same things it can work.

 

[Lamont]

Yes. Having a partner with way more experience, intellect, resources etc. can be problematic. Especially if you want different things.

Would you say this applies more to older man/younger woman couples than the opposite?

 

[Dollene]

Would you say this applies more to older man/younger woman couples than the opposite?

I would say Type A/Type B personalities. However, it’s probably more common with older man/younger woman couples.

 

[Lamont]

@Dollene makes sense. An older women isnt going to put time and effort into a man that is her inferior by such a degree. BTW you're putting your response in quotes so it looks like your post is coming from me.

 

[Dollene]

@Dollene makes sense. An older women isnt going to put time and effort into a man that is her inferior by such a degree. BTW you're putting your response in quotes so it looks like your post is coming from me.

Thanks

 

[The Honorable]

Patrice o' Neal came up with a scale on rating women from 1-30. 1-10 is ugly chicks, 11-20 aight chicks, 21-30 fine chicks. So there are now degrees to how good looking a woman is and how ugly they are. THe way he described it as "fine ass fine chicks, fine ass ugly chicks, and ugly ass fine chicks." His theory was that if you used this scale it gave you the correct amount of swag to approach a woman and not have to gas her up to be better looking than she really was. But a woman is only out of your league if your finances aren't straight. and your game ain't tight.

He was such an a amazing personality, it’s sad that we lost him so soon.

 

[sourgrapes]

I don't ever think of this. I like who I like and I am attracted to who I am attracted to. It doesn't matter if the majority of people in my life think he is attractive or not. Maybe this is more of a guy thing?

 

[Goldilocks]

I went out with his guy who was a model a few times. I look decent depending on who is looking lol but he was drop dead gorgeous. He was completely use to getting what he wanted because of his looks.

He wanted to smash but I declined. Not interested in causal relationships and, I won't lie, I wanted to humble him. He was shocked...so shock that after I declined the next day he got a fresh shape up and came by to see him looking amazing. I wouldn't let him in the house. We talked outside and he told me this never happened to him before ... I guess I popped that cherry. Lol

He hits me up around once a year. Still not interested. No cheeks from Goldie.

 

[georgiaclay2022]

Hmmmm…. Not out of my league, but significantly younger. My second wife was 18 yrs younger than me. I recently dated a woman who was 22 yrs younger. Both experiences were educational for me…

 

[Jay]

Hmmmm…. Not out of my league, but significantly younger. My second wife was 18 yrs younger than me. I recently dated a woman who was 22 yrs younger. Both experiences were educational for me…

What did you learn…Taht you need to hit the gym more?

 

[TheHarmattan]

I went out with his guy who was a model a few times. I look decent depending on who is looking lol but he was drop dead gorgeous. He was completely use to getting what he wanted because of his looks.

He wanted to smash but I declined. Not interested in causal relationships and, I won't lie, I wanted to humble him. He was shocked...so shock that after I declined the next day he got a fresh shape up and came by to see him looking amazing. I wouldn't let him in the house. We talked outside and he told me this never happened to him before ... I guess I popped that cherry. Lol

He hits me up around once a year. Still not interested. No cheeks from Goldie.

Have you seen "The Harmattan"? That dude has antlers and a hoof. None of his teeth fits inside his mouth.

But he would treat a woman respectful and beat it to death.😂

 

[TheHarmattan]

I don't ever think of this. I like who I like and I am attracted to who I am attracted to. It doesn't matter if the majority of people in my life think he is attractive or not. Maybe this is more of a guy thing?

Nah, when I dated, looks were not everything. I'm a sapiosexual, so by definition, looks take a backseat.

 

[georgiaclay2022]

What did you learn…Taht you need to hit the gym more?

LOL nah, the gym has never been a problem, I've worked out and lifted weights since I was 15. Even with the post cancer effects, I am just a leaner version of myself. It's more foundational. I grew up in the 60s and 70s, and interacting with women who grew up in them 80s and 90s means there are two different worldviews. It can be humorous or tense depending on the issue...

 

[sourgrapes]

Nah, when I dated, looks were not everything. I'm a sapiosexual, so by definition, looks take a backseat.

Looks have to factor into some degree but a lot of people put the attractiveness of a possible partner in other people's hands. Like will my family think he/she is good enough? Will my friends think he/she is hot enough? and so on. The one dude I dated, after my mother met him she goes "give yourself come credit" LOL

 

[TheHarmattan]

Looks have to factor into some degree but a lot of people put the attractiveness of a possible partner in other people's hands. Like will my family think he/she is good enough? Will my friends think he/she is hot enough? and so on. The one dude I dated, after my mother met him she goes "give yourself come credit" LOL

I agree. If you were my sis and you brought The Elephant Man to meet me, I'd pull you to the side and see if you were seeing what I was seeing. I don't care if he treats you right.

 

[sourgrapes]

I agree. If you were my sis and you brought The Elephant Man to meet me, I'd pull you to the side and see if you were seeing what I was seeing. I don't care if he treats you right.

I mean looks aren't everything but they are something. I guess we sometimes date below a certain standard in other people's eyes. Like a friend of mine. Her fiance is... Well, he is not a good-looking guy but he treats her right and makes her happy so I am happy for her.

 

[Jay]

LOL nah, the gym has never been a problem, I've worked out and lifted weights since I was 15. Even with the post cancer effects, I am just a leaner version of myself. It's more foundational. I grew up in the 60s and 70s, and interacting with women who grew up in them 80s and 90s means there are two different worldviews. It can be humorous or tense depending on the issue...

Oh snap you’re up there…you marched on edmund pettis bridge huh?

 

[georgiaclay2022]

Oh snap you’re up there…you marched on edmund pettis bridge huh?

LOL I was born in 1960, raised in Ohio.... I do remember when MLK was killed. We lived in Cincinnati at the time. A lot of rioting. National Guard rolling down the streets in their armored vehicles, curfew at dark... It was scary for an 8 yr old...

 

[Lamont]

I went out with his guy who was a model a few times. I look decent depending on who is looking lol but he was drop dead gorgeous. He was completely use to getting what he wanted because of his looks.

He wanted to smash but I declined. Not interested in causal relationships and, I won't lie, I wanted to humble him. He was shocked...so shock that after I declined the next day he got a fresh shape up and came by to see him looking amazing. I wouldn't let him in the house. We talked outside and he told me this never happened to him before ... I guess I popped that cherry. Lol

He hits me up around once a year. Still not interested. No cheeks from Goldie.

Do you believe you humbled him? Sounds like he has placed you in the 50% probability of closing status and is tapping in to see when you fold. He is hoping that one of those texts land in a moment of weakened and you come around. In the meantime he is being a whore.

 

[Goldilocks]

Do you believe you humbled him? Sounds like he has placed you in the 50% probability of closing status and is tapping in to see when you fold. He is hoping that one of those texts land in a moment of weakened and you come around. In the meantime he is being a whore.

Yes because he said it never happened before and he put quite a bit of effort afterwards. I'm not saying I destroyed his ego...hardly lol...because I'm sure the next was happy to smash. But did it throw him for a mental loop temporarily? Yes, which is why he put on his best cleaned up and represented himself to me.

He actually went dred head, hippy mode last I spoke with him so I actually think he's off the pretty boy swag. Yes I am sure he is just calling to see if I changed my mine. I was speaking of my initial denial.

 

[FeverPitch]

I don't believe in "out of my league".
All kinds of people gravitate towards each other for various reasons.
I'm just myself in social situations and those who are interested make it known.

I tell both men and women, being a perfect physical specimen has little to do with being in a relationship.
It may cause more people to be attracted to you initially, but that will not be the bond that makes the relationship succeed.
So many so-called beautiful people are just as unlucky in love as the rest of us.
Not to pick on her, but Halle Berry is considered to be universally beautiful and she has aged very well.
But her beauty could not secure happiness in a relationship.
When you look around, there are plenty of people who are not top tier aesthetically who are booed up and happy."
Be the best person you can be and things tend to work out in your favor.

 

[Heatice]

Where mine would be is with dating older women. I don't have any kind of interest with younger ladies, they are too stressful for me to deal with all of their drama compared to the kind of peace that I enjoy with older ladies. I can't date a lady of 25 years.

 

[TeeGee]

No, for me a girl can be a dime but if her attitude is blah.. She automatically looks like a 4 to me.
Looks play about 30% the attitude, nature hygiene, and character is what I look at.
But no, never out of my league.

Well said mate, looks is good though, but with wrong attitude even the best looking lady seems unattractive to me. Our communication also, if she is able to keep on an intellectual discussion and she is quite intelligent this would also give her some more points.

 

[Sapphire]

Honestly, I have no idea. I date whoever I am attracted to and whoever I am feeling. I don't care what people think. I feel like when we use terms like "out of your league" it puts a stigma on relationships be them sexual or martial that just isn't healthy.

 

[Blackgravity]

Well said mate, looks is good though, but with wrong attitude even the best looking lady seems unattractive to me. Our communication also, if she is able to keep on an intellectual discussion and she is quite intelligent this would also give her some more points.

Yes the communication is important, I hate when you bring up a topic or subject that's pretty common and they look at you like you're talking French. A lot of girls think being educated is the same as being intelligent, it's not.

 

[Goodness]

Yes, I have dated someone way out of my league. I was in my finals in school and he was in his 1st year even though he ws my senior in age.
I was the rich-kid student and he was always in want. I was this casual dressing babe and he was drop-dead gorgeous
I am the wife and he is my husband.
We've been married for 12 years and counting

 

[Barida]

As a king, every woman that I have dated are in my league. I don't go for women that will stress me in any way. Once I notice that the demands are much, then it is time to let her back to the streets.