The Cookout

[sourgrapes]

In terms of someone's sexual body count, how many is too many for you to lose interest?

A friend of mine stuck to a rule of keeping it under 10 and she still does manage to find men who have only been with single digits but I feel like some might be lying to her, who knows. I haven't been with a lot of dudes and I don't want to be with a dude who has been dipping his johnson from here to Timbuktu. That is me. I have standards for myself.

 

[Goldilocks]

I find that there are better ways to gauge a person's integrity than body count. It something that you can easily lie about so I don't even see the purpose of asking honestly. You don't "know" someone from asking questions. You know someone from interacting with them.

If a guy is promiscuous it's pretty easy to tell for the most part. If a guy is overly good with women he probably gets around. If you want to know if a guy is to be trusted just take him around an attractive friend. If he is overly interested in her...welp. People without discipline usually lack the ability to control themselves around their vice.

Also I don't really trust overly charismatic people in general. They usually tend to be full of shit.

 

[TheHarmattan]

When I was 17 I joined the Marines. I traveled a lot. I remember going to Subic Bay. As I was reboarding the ship, a sea of Filipina women. They were pulling me left and right. I felt like a rock star. Needless to say a lot of things happened. I was chill with about 2 women per day.

I've done my fair share. I don't know the exact number but between 50 and 100. Mexico, Australia, Japan, South Africa, Haiti and Iceland made the Marines very comfortable.

I was hoping to get a date with sourgrapes but I fear I'm out.

 

[Boss Hog]

I personally don’t give a damn. I in fact prefer a woman with experience. Im with @Goldilocks there’s other things to look at other than # of bodies. You could have someone with 1 that got HIV and a hoe like @TheHarmattan that’s clean.

 

[Tati 304]

In terms of someone's sexual body count, how many is too many for you to lose interest?

A friend of mine stuck to a rule of keeping it under 10 and she still does manage to find men who have only been with single digits but I feel like some might be lying to her, who knows. I haven't been with a lot of dudes and I don't want to be with a dude who has been dipping his johnson from here to Timbuktu. That is me. I have standards for myself.

There's men out here lying about having whole other families they will definitely lie about body count. The minute you ask they will know it's something of importance to you and they will lie.

I find that there are better ways to gauge a person's integrity than body count.

Girl yes. I dated a square who was really nice, accommodating, protective and I knew for a fact that he had been around. He was too smooth, charming, well dressed, handsome, and successful. But I never brought it up because he gave me everything I needed.

 

[sourgrapes]

I find that there are better ways to gauge a person's integrity than body count. It something that you can easily lie about so I don't even see the purpose of asking honestly. You don't "know" someone from asking questions. You know someone from interacting with them.

If a guy is promiscuous it's pretty easy to tell for the most part. If a guy is overly good with women he probably gets around. If you want to know if a guy is to be trusted just take him around an attractive friend. If he is overly interested in her...welp. People without discipline usually lack the ability to control themselves around their vice.

Also I don't really trust overly charismatic people in general. They usually tend to be full of ish.

Truth. I guess it is just a sign of discipline for me. Like I get that guys will sleep around a lot when they are younger, some girls do as well. Exploring and whatnot. I suppose relationship longevity might be an easier way to test and see if a person is for commitment or not. Like this what chick at work (I tend to avoid her) has been engaged 3 times now and he is only 29. I have a feeling she doesn't like commitment long-term but rather enjoys the status.

 

[sourgrapes]

When I was 17 I joined the Marines. I traveled a lot. I remember going to Subic Bay. As I was reboarding the ship, a sea of Filipina women. They were pulling me left and right. I felt like a rock star. Needless to say a lot of things happened. I was chill with about 2 women per day.

I've done my fair share. I don't know the exact number but between 50 and 100. Mexico, Australia, Japan, South Africa, Haiti and Iceland made the Marines very comfortable.

I was hoping to get a date with sourgrapes but I fear I'm out.

But for real that is understandable. You were young and having women throw themselves at you had to be a treat. Just hope you did frequent testing! I always hear of stories of young men going to the army and having this happen. It isn't like it isn't a common thing. Some women have a thing for men in uniform. I have a friend who legit has a thing for cops. I always tell her she is crazy. She only dates cops (mostly black men) but that limits her dating pool so much.

 

[TheHarmattan]

But for real that is understandable. You were young and having women throw themselves at you had to be a treat. Just hope you did frequent testing! I always hear of stories of young men going to the army and having this happen. It isn't like it isn't a common thing. Some women have a thing for men in uniform. I have a friend who legit has a thing for cops. I always tell her she is crazy. She only dates cops (mostly black men) but that limits her dating pool so much.

The military was mandatory testing. "Getting you bore punched" is what they call it.
It stings like fire...

 

[Red Velvet]

In terms of someone's sexual body count, how many is too many for you to lose interest?

A friend of mine stuck to a rule of keeping it under 10 and she still does manage to find men who have only been with single digits but I feel like some might be lying to her, who knows. I haven't been with a lot of dudes and I don't want to be with a dude who has been dipping his johnson from here to Timbuktu. That is me. I have standards for myself.

I’m like Clinton’s military don’t ask, don’t tell. What I always ask people when this topic comes up is what are you trying to avoid? Is it STDs, disloyalty, promiscuity? Because there’s other ways to avoid those that are better than a number check. You can mandate STD checks before sex and spend time having deep meaningful conversation over a period of time to see if they are loyal or promiscuous.

 

[sourgrapes]

I’m like Clinton’s military don’t ask, don’t tell. What I always ask people when this topic comes up is what are you trying to avoid? Is it STDs, disloyalty, promiscuity? Because there’s other ways to avoid those that are better than a number check. You can mandate STD checks before sex and spend time having deep meaningful conversation over a period of time to see if they are loyal or promiscuous.

Fair truths. I guess it is easier to just put someone out for sleeping around than put the work in when looking at their character qualities. You are right, you can require testing and gain knowledge of a person without actually inquiring about how many people they had sex with. I know for a lot of people, more experience usually means better sex as well.

I guess for me, I just want someone on my level in terms of experience so we can grow together sexually and explore new things together.

 

[lexodyssey]

I agree with what everyone else has said. It's way too easy to lie so I wouldn't ask anyway. I feel like I have a pretty good perception of people so talking and getting to know him would do more than asking. As far as a number, I don't really care. I'd rather judge him on other qualities than who he's been with.

 

[Red Velvet]

Fair truths. I guess it is easier to just put someone out for sleeping around than put the work in when looking at their character qualities. You are right, you can require testing and gain knowledge of a person without actually inquiring about how many people they had sex with. I know for a lot of people, more experience usually means better sex as well.

I guess for me, I just want someone on my level in terms of experience so we can grow together sexually and explore new things together.

Yes, I'm too old to be trying to teach a man how to please me. It takes all the strength in me to even allow a second shot if he doesn't do me right the first time. As long as he is clean and hasnt been messing around with crack whores or men we're good.

 

[sourgrapes]

Yes, I'm too old to be trying to teach a man how to please me. It takes all the strength in me to even allow a second shot if he doesn't do me right the first time. As long as he is clean and hasnt been messing around with crack whores or men we're good.

Have you ever asked for a guy to be tested first and they refused? I would imagine this happens. I know in Cali, they are having all sorts of issues with STDs cause they outlawed it being a criminal offense to sleep with people knowing you have things like HIV or AIDS. I would not trust anyone's bed out there lol

 

[Red Velvet]

Have you ever asked for a guy to be tested first and they refused? I would imagine this happens. I know in Cali, they are having all sorts of issues with STDs cause they outlawed it being a criminal offense to sleep with people knowing you have things like HIV or AIDS. I would not trust anyone's bed out there lol

Only once and he was cut off promptly.

 

[Bruh Man]

I used to say 10 was my cut off but that shit ain’t realistic at my age. Too many is when you smell like an ocean and you smash two dudes without out bathing between.

 

[sourgrapes]

I used to say 10 was my cut off but that ish ain’t realistic at my age. Too many is when you smell like an ocean and you smash two dudes without out bathing between.

Just thinking about that scenario turns my stomach. I went to school with a chick who basically got tossed around the football team and you could legit smell her anytime she wore a skirt!

 

[Caprice]

I asked a guy once and I didn’t like his number lol, so I never asked anyone again. That’s not my business. Plus, people lie.

 

[Jay]

I asked a guy once and I didn’t like his number lol, so I never asked anyone again. That’s not my business. Plus, people lie.

 

[TheHarmattan]

Give me the secret on how to drill a MacBook Pro and still make it book up.

 

[Jay]

Give me the secret on how to drill a MacBook Pro and still make it book up.

Stop coming to me with your computer fetishes bro.

 

[TheHarmattan]

Stop coming to me with your computer fetishes bro.

I figured you are in love with MacBooks to program it to do anything you want. If the laptop doesn't do you right, have you thought about the CEO of Apple? He's free this weekend.

 

[Jay]

I figured you are in love with MacBooks to program it to do anything you want. If the laptop doesn't do you right, have you thought about the CEO of Apple? He's free this weekend.

I'm taken.