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I've seen this constantly. We see it on social media. Divestors/Swirlers, Kendra G show, not enough brothers on my level. Maybe for some of you ladies on here, you say its true. My home girls have said as much.

However, I have not seen it among my homies and myself. In my early to mid 20s I've dated or tried to date a few women who made more than me, but its not been my experience when I got near 30 and beyond.

100k and more seems to be the bench mark that is discussed. I did some googling and it didn't take too long to find the percentage of Black men making 100k or more. But for some strange reason I'm having problems finding the same information for sisters. If anyone has any verifiable percentages, please post them.

TBA has said that after a certain age brothers take off. That seems to be the case among me and my friends. The sisters we knew 10 years ago in our job status aren't making as much on average and the one that are, they're carrying way more debt. They have far more student loans. They spend far more each month. They live a far higher lifestyle. A friend of mine said his sista coworker has a much more expensive apartment, and when she goes on vacation stays at far more expensive hotels. Sisters (and women in general) do far more IG clout chasing.

 

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Part 2.

My guess is that many if not most sisters are dating 'down'. My homies who are doing very well, weren't getting hollared at by the sisters we all knew in their 20s. They are all married now. And a few of the sisters we knew were tryna holla at them when they were dating their future wife. Maybe I'm off, but it seems like for many sisters, its bad choices being made rather than lack of good brothers making a good amount.

Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of brothers I wouldn't introduce to any female family or friend. But I don't hang with those brothers. It's almost always brothers I know from back in the day. These days I hang with like minded brothers. They are pro black overall and they are also ambitious and not slackers. Some are still single but they have given up on American sisters. Sadly. They are either dating sisters overseas or non black women. The ones with non black (& non white) women are still pro black if that sounds hypocritical. Maybe it is, but they pass things between us that is the same as on here. Anti Black articles or Black affirming successes.

1.4 million black men are making 100k or more. White men are marrying 200k sisters a year, 4 million black men marry black women each year and there is no guarantee the white men marrying sisters are all making 100k. So the whole, we can't find black men on our level seems a bit out of whack. A lot of swirlers are marrying beta males who don't make a lot. Halle Berry and Sage Steele both married personal trainers for example.

 

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Interesting conversation. Single sisters buy homes far higher than single brothers but as TBA pointed out, these homes the sisters are buying aren't affordable many times and they end up losing it. Men buy homes in part for its future appreciation and as part of an overall financial plan. Some sisters do, but the ones I know who bought homes, were buying it because it was 'cute' as one of their main reasons and the terms and place wasn't going to be to their advantage.

Also, they discussed sisters making 500k. Almost any woman making 500k, black or white, is usually in a career where they sacrificed dating for a career. Be it lawyer, doctor, Wall Street trader, the work you have to put in are 60, 70 hour weeks. Not much time for anything else. You end up dating where you work because that's where you spend most of your time.

Also, men making 500k in America are very worried about marriage and the divorce game. I have one friend, a millionaire lawyer, single, says he's never getting married. At least not in America. He said 'I'm not going to have some white boy (judge) who doesn't like seeing a brotha make this much money decide how much I have to pay my ex' He has a point.

 

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I've seen this constantly. We see it on social media. Divestors/Swirlers, Kendra G show, not enough brothers on my level. Maybe for some of you ladies on here, you say its true. My home girls have said as much.

However, I have not seen it among my homies and myself. In my early to mid 20s I've dated or tried to date a few women who made more than me, but its not been my experience when I got near 30 and beyond.

100k and more seems to be the bench mark that is discussed. I did some googling and it didn't take too long to find the percentage of Black men making 100k or more. But for some strange reason I'm having problems finding the same information for sisters. If anyone has any verifiable percentages, please post them.

TBA has said that after a certain age brothers take off. That seems to be the case among me and my friends. The sisters we knew 10 years ago in our job status aren't making as much on average and the one that are, they're carrying way more debt. They have far more student loans. They spend far more each month. They live a far higher lifestyle. A friend of mine said his sista coworker has a much more expensive apartment, and when she goes on vacation stays at far more expensive hotels. Sisters (and women in general) do far more IG clout chasing.

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Well said.

 

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Part 2.

My guess is that many if not most sisters are dating 'down'. My homies who are doing very well, weren't getting hollared at by the sisters we all knew in their 20s. They are all married now. And a few of the sisters we knew were tryna holla at them when they were dating their future wife. Maybe I'm off, but it seems like for many sisters, its bad choices being made rather than lack of good brothers making a good amount.

Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of brothers I wouldn't introduce to any female family or friend. But I don't hang with those brothers. It's almost always brothers I know from back in the day. These days I hang with like minded brothers. They are pro black overall and they are also ambitious and not slackers. Some are still single but they have given up on American sisters. Sadly. They are either dating sisters overseas or non black women. The ones with non black (& non white) women are still pro black if that sounds hypocritical. Maybe it is, but they pass things between us that is the same as on here. Anti Black articles or Black affirming successes.

1.4 million black men are making 100k or more. White men are marrying 200k sisters a year, 4 million black men marry black women each year and there is no guarantee the white men marrying sisters are all making 100k. So the whole, we can't find black men on our level seems a bit out of whack. A lot of swirlers are marrying beta males who don't make a lot. Halle Berry and Sage Steele both married personal trainers for example.

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Most sisters are not dating down. I agree. I don't want to be around certain Black men either because I desire to be productive.

 

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Interesting conversation. Single sisters buy homes far higher than single brothers but as TBA pointed out, these homes the sisters are buying aren't affordable many times and they end up losing it. Men buy homes in part for its future appreciation and as part of an overall financial plan. Some sisters do, but the ones I know who bought homes, were buying it because it was 'cute' as one of their main reasons and the terms and place wasn't going to be to their advantage.

Also, they discussed sisters making 500k. Almost any woman making 500k, black or white, is usually in a career where they sacrificed dating for a career. Be it lawyer, doctor, Wall Street trader, the work you have to put in are 60, 70 hour weeks. Not much time for anything else. You end up dating where you work because that's where you spend most of your time.

Also, men making 500k in America are very worried about marriage and the divorce game. I have one friend, a millionaire lawyer, single, says he's never getting married. At least not in America. He said 'I'm not going to have some white boy (judge) who doesn't like seeing a brotha make this much money decide how much I have to pay my ex' He has a point.

That last paragraph is very telling. I feel the same way. I'm doing extremely well financially. But folks who don't know me make comments to others that "he's gay" which Im not. I don't want to get married or even have children now. Why? I have seen folks have a prenuptial agreement that was not honored in court. I also don't want a judge milking me dry by me paying my ex a lot of money.

 

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Part 2.

My guess is that many if not most sisters are dating 'down'. My homies who are doing very well, weren't getting hollared at by the sisters we all knew in their 20s. They are all married now. And a few of the sisters we knew were tryna holla at them when they were dating their future wife. Maybe I'm off, but it seems like for many sisters, its bad choices being made rather than lack of good brothers making a good amount.

Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of brothers I wouldn't introduce to any female family or friend. But I don't hang with those brothers. It's almost always brothers I know from back in the day. These days I hang with like minded brothers. They are pro black overall and they are also ambitious and not slackers. Some are still single but they have given up on American sisters. Sadly. They are either dating sisters overseas or non black women. The ones with non black (& non white) women are still pro black if that sounds hypocritical. Maybe it is, but they pass things between us that is the same as on here. Anti Black articles or Black affirming successes.

1.4 million black men are making 100k or more. White men are marrying 200k sisters a year, 4 million black men marry black women each year and there is no guarantee the white men marrying sisters are all making 100k. So the whole, we can't find black men on our level seems a bit out of whack. A lot of swirlers are marrying beta males who don't make a lot. Halle Berry and Sage Steele both married personal trainers for example.

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I never would have guessed it was 8 percent. There are so many "bosses" out there. Gotta be a lot of fakes.