Before the LGBT+ community mafioso'd their way to legislative glory, they used to do it all the time. They'd marry "straight" and then get the benefits. Then get separated until the other person actually was ready to marry. My cousin lives in CA and when he was a social worker he saw a lot of divorces with children cases that I guess he had to look into to see if a guardian ad litem situation was needed. Anyway, he'd notice that when he'd meet with the parents (separately and usually white) you could tell clearly what the arrangement was.
I heard it happened quite a bit. I knew a family that lied about their relationship and were seeing other people. I guess one of them happened to be from Russia and needed to get married, but wasn't in love in any way. I imagine it was more to do with keeping their orientation secret back then. But I could see a lot lying to their spouses about their intentions too.
I don't know any people like that per se but over the course of my life Ive heard people talking about marriage for reasons other than love and I always take note.
A lot of people discuss marriage as a transactional thing
They hide it good, cause they have to. But yeah, marriage can be a transactional thing when there's something needed from it.
My mother's friend who is white married a man who basically married her out of pity. He had a decent job with good insurance. He felt bad for her and wanted to marry her so she could get insurance among other things. The sad part is, she had no idea. He ended up getting some medical procedure done on his stomach, I think it was the band, and lost like 150 pounds and then started seeing another woman while they were still married and knocked her up. He ended up divorcing her and marrying the other woman... Only for the same thing to happen again. He ended up cheating on his new wife with someone else.
Ah damn, that happens all the time. That's how I see those Russian mail order brides that all these white dudes be bringing to the states. Once they are married and have citizenship, they peace the hell out.
I friend of mine married his best friend from the military for all the benefits and additional money. They got divorced a few years ago because she wanted to marry someone else
I forgot about military benefits. A friend of mine got married young when he was in the national guard, and I guess he got some good benefits for it. Can't complain him, but they were divorced within like 3-4 years I'd guess.
I think everyone who gets married does so for the benefits. whether it's financial, sex, kids, or convenience/comfort, job advancement, security - That's why when one or all of those benefits run out, the divorce rate is so high. Unrealistic expectations and unplanned outcomes. The inherent selfishness of human nature - the lack of balance, morals. Reciprocity.
Yeah that makes sense. Either way, we do get married and it does afford us these options. Once the kids are out to college is when I start to see divorces happening. They lose those benefits once their children become of age. So all they then have is whatever marriage gets for just the two of them.
