For Big Fellaz Only: If you have a sister, Aunt, cousin, nowadays even Big Mama. Do what you can to help them and their kids because YOU ARE THE ONLY MAN, in her life that can help make it better for the kids and Even her situation, if they ask for help. Our kids need us even if you don't have any. #B1
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Do you believe this is required even if it is injurious to yourself?
I kind of agree with this but I have a cousin that pumped out 8 babies in 10 years and two are by brothers. I'm not helping her ass with anything. However I do believe that if a woman is righteous and moving in the right direction that we as men have to be their support. Even if it's instilling masculinity or displaying masculinity around the children.
If they're baby daddies is someone you can't handle it's still no excuse because that is your blood relative, if you don't know how to shoot or call the police what good are you t ok them, to help change they're life for the better. Bruh at this point I fell you're trolling but I'm so definitely interested in your response
And let's be honest do your said relative have that many kids, because it would have me respond accordingly
I didn't mean physically I meant let's say you have relatives that continuously make bad decisions. If you keep bailing them out it can become a strain on your own finances, time, and resource. So my question to you was do you help people at your own expense. Is there a point where you determine that certain people can't even help themselves and then charge them to the game? I personally do not believe it is my duty to help everyone around me or those in my family. It is my duty as a strong Black man to lift those up who want to be lifted up. But if someone is lazy or unproductive it would be a terrible idea for me to create the expectation that I will be there to help them when they are in need.
I believe this was meant for me and she actually does have that many kids and two are brothers and cousins. She knowingly created this trail of baggage. I seen her with guy after guy after guy growing up and she always seemed to be pregnant during halloween which was confusing as hell. So why should I, a man with my own daughter who I have to pay for a tutor, pay for software, homework with, buy uniforms for, and more take from her to help out my cousin when she is hell bent on screwing up her own life? Part of being a strong man is setting boundaries and dishing out consequences.
Well to this response: ONLY TO THOSE WHO WANTS CHANGE. You're right in no way am I asking you to to do something that's to your detriment, but me knowing how the NOI helps those in this same predicament, I move accordingly in this regard. I adhere to know said way of life but only to what the creator has given to us to act accordingly by, but these are the only brothers I've seen do the work and yield RESULTS. Depending on how dedicated you are on wanting the best for your family, is entirely up to you to determine, I'm only here to drop a seed, because we can't say we want better for the community and not put in the work, no matter how hard or difficult it may be. Ask yourself this how hard was it for Khalid Muhammad or the deacons of defense after MALCOLM X and DR. MICHAEL LUTHER KING was assassinated.
I agree with this in theory and believe it makes for a great social media post but when I think about how it relates to my family I have to hit you with the:
I've just seen way too much self-sabotage for me to step into the be the provider for people who have ran off every provider they've ever had. I may let them or their kids call me for advice and I may put them up on game but that's about the extent I will extend myself to.
I had a cousin that just got out of the most ghetto, low down, salacious relationship ever. He was down bad and his dad scooped him up out the situation, gave him a place to stay, laced him with all new gear and got him a job. His dad asked me to teach him about HTML and CSS.
I talked to my cousin and he said he wanted to learn so I said "alright come to my spot once a week and I'll train you". He came over for the first session and I gave him homework to see if he was serious. He never showed back up after that.
He actually went back to the ratchet that had him and her in dire straights. So while I do think it's good to be the rock of the family there has to be limits. If your aunt is babying the hell out of her son like I seen in my family and now the nigga lazy AF what am I supposed to do about that?
Even after me rereading this makes me want to start up, programs with money donated from our ppl to help single mother and fathers, because if Huey can create the wic program, why can't we have good men and women to help implement this, so it won't be excuses on why they can't get by
And Jay you're right I completely understand your sentiment, but if we don't figure out a way to CONTROL as TBA stated earlier our family, the government will. And when that happens you know what comes next. My thing is for us to take our ppl back, with CONTROL, with like minded inviduals like myself because, I'm not the only one who feels this way
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I refuse to help anybody who dont attempt to help themselves, and that includes the females (and males) in my family. I ride solo.
It was difficult but you're in a room full of people on a mission. You cannot compare that to helping individuals who in many cases are helpless or aimless. Our resources can either be a force multiplier or welfare and using it as welfare on an individual level is a drain of resources. Now if there was some type of collective collection plate and we all put in a portion to be a foundation for the community I'm totally with that. But once again we can't just have everyone's hands in the pot. They will have to contribute to the cause in whichever way they can.
I totally agree but we can’t save everyone which is why the original post didn’t apply to me. We have to triage the Black community and there are those that can be saved and those that can’t. We have to focus on the ones that can be saved and invest our resources into them. Not every woman around us is worthy of our sacrifices. But the ones that are deserve our loyalty and guidance as long as they accept our leadership.
Everything above sounds like some simp shit. Everything below starts sounding like providing for the community which I agree with. It’s our job as Black men to protect, defend, and uplift our communities period point blank. If we don’t do it then our women and children are at risk.
You didn’t say that in your first couple posts. You didn’t start saying that until people started to disagree. When you corrected your statement you got consensus that we do need to step up and protect at app costs.
The only simp is those who can't differentiate who's worth their protection. True I should have stateted that in the beginning but you only should be concerned if I was doubling down. I'm not above criticism but when I corrected myself due to brothers coming in giving me their take on it, that's what part of this is about about.
But wait, hasn't it been said here that you like pawgs and non-Black women? What if someone were to say: "Oh, well he mostly has kids by a white wife or white/non-Black baby mama(s), let the white women and non-Black women come to his rescue." With what I know now, I don’t like the idea of Black people getting into interracial relationships or mixing (especially with the white oppressor class) in general. I think as long as the Black person and their children aren't coons or traitors then they are worthy of protection. If whites and corrupt white authorities can still resentfully protect and get on code with their white brothers and sisters even when they date and have children with Black people, then we can do the same with those in our community who date out but are still willing to get and be on code with us.
I clearly said I would have relations with a non-Black women but I would only marry a Black woman. But you bringing that up is stupid because me having sex with a white woman does not hurt the Black community.
People having multiple kids they cannot afford and then begging the Black community hurts the community. You so caught up in what I have done in my bed that you totally overlooked the fact that the person I was talking about had 8 kids in 10 years.
But that’s what women do a lot of times. Y’all defend your bad behavior no matter what even if it’s hurting you or all of us in the end.
I don't eat pork, but nonetheless I agree 👍🏿💯 in both of your statements
Great post Tank3245 and it’s my job as a woman to make sure I make children with responsible men. It’s hard out here I can’t lie there’s a lot of bums but I’d rather be without a kid then to make another generation that has to struggle.