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Sis needs to learn how to pick better. I can see a time waster from a mile away. A lot of us cling to bad habits and get upset when we get the same result.
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She’s a bird brain who wants to be with a white man but gets overlooked because they don’t want to shack up with a race traitor with a predator forehead.
Pro: It gives everyone a voice
Con: It gives everyone a voice
She’s a bird brain who wants to be with a white man but gets overlooked because they don’t want to shack up with a race traitor with a predator forehead.
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I don't see why people give people like her the time of day. She is clearly not going to budge on what she is saying. She believes what she believes and if you disagree she basically says you need to go find out why you're wrong. It's like talking to a brick wall.
Cute but over 30, with a kid. She will get a lot of dates. She'll have to make up for that with personality and character. I know that's why I look for if I'm dating a single mom and she wants me to consider her. A child is a HUGE consideration if you are a guy. If you are considering marrying they are a package deal and you mentally, financially, have to be prepared for both.
Also, she is choosing the wrong guy. She's cute enough to get a quality guy. Also when I hear "I make more than the guys I date", that tells me the woman is into looks more than she should. I can't think of too many times I made less than the woman I dated. And if I did, I kept it a buck. I didn't trip but the dynamics are different. I've always made 'decent' money and when I dated professional women they often had a 'I don't need you (financially)' attitude in any disagreement. Also, many sisters date down for the power dynamics.
And to be balanced, I see it with brothers. Two kinds of brothers go full Becky. Those that want an 8.5 - 10 and think because they are a black male with a decent job, good guy in their mind, and black 8.5 to 9s at least maybe tens should be grateful he's not a pookie or ray ray. Then there are the ones with money, who don't trust sisters and frankly have a Becky fetish. Not 100 percent 2 types but most of them. I'm talking exclusively Becky.
Anyway, I know a white boy I worked with who is Republican, dates only non white women. We had a real azz talk about all kinds of things, politics, dating etc (got him in knots about reparations to the point he didn't want to discuss it again..haha but I digress). anyway, he said when he approaches a sista who primarily dates black men but will supplement her dating with non black men, he has to be perfect, expensive dinners, act progressive, etc but on dating apps when the sisters are saying 'race unimimportant' 'open minded' 'color is no barrier' the buzz words, he knows he can smash first night. I'm paraphrasing but he said he sits through 2-3 hours of dinner and talking about how black men are this and that, etc biding his time till he takes her home to smash.
The sisters I know that get approached say they rarely ever have an issue with the white guy if they give up the number and go on a date. However, the sisters who only go after white men, won't say this but they get the type that will say n*gga at first in a song or whatever. We've seen the videos. The white boys who talk a sister into dating him will never, ever say that. Chystelyn Karazin's bf was on clubhouse saying the N bomb. She went after him.
And to be balanced, I had an Indonesian friend who, years ago had a brother interested in her and he told her it was okay for her to say nigga to him. She didn't use the term and asked 'is that okay? I wasn't comfortable' And I said no its NEVER okay, he's trying to make you as comfortable as you can to smash. She dated other Asians and white boys but was cool with me and my boy as she hung with mutual friends.
This sista obviously has some choosing issues. I know of a few great black couples. They are out there. Black love in full effect, both of them are quality peoples. some are relatives, some are homies.
Also, she is choosing the wrong guy. She's cute enough to get a quality guy. Also when I hear "I make more than the guys I date", that tells me the woman is into looks more than she should. I can't think of too many times I made less than the woman I dated. And if I did, I kept it a buck. I didn't trip but the dynamics are different. I've always made 'decent' money and when I dated professional women they often had a 'I don't need you (financially)' attitude in any disagreement. Also, many sisters date down for the power dynamics.
And to be balanced, I see it with brothers. Two kinds of brothers go full Becky. Those that want an 8.5 - 10 and think because they are a black male with a decent job, good guy in their mind, and black 8.5 to 9s at least maybe tens should be grateful he's not a pookie or ray ray. Then there are the ones with money, who don't trust sisters and frankly have a Becky fetish. Not 100 percent 2 types but most of them. I'm talking exclusively Becky.
Anyway, I know a white boy I worked with who is Republican, dates only non white women. We had a real azz talk about all kinds of things, politics, dating etc (got him in knots about reparations to the point he didn't want to discuss it again..haha but I digress). anyway, he said when he approaches a sista who primarily dates black men but will supplement her dating with non black men, he has to be perfect, expensive dinners, act progressive, etc but on dating apps when the sisters are saying 'race unimimportant' 'open minded' 'color is no barrier' the buzz words, he knows he can smash first night. I'm paraphrasing but he said he sits through 2-3 hours of dinner and talking about how black men are this and that, etc biding his time till he takes her home to smash.
The sisters I know that get approached say they rarely ever have an issue with the white guy if they give up the number and go on a date. However, the sisters who only go after white men, won't say this but they get the type that will say n*gga at first in a song or whatever. We've seen the videos. The white boys who talk a sister into dating him will never, ever say that. Chystelyn Karazin's bf was on clubhouse saying the N bomb. She went after him.
And to be balanced, I had an Indonesian friend who, years ago had a brother interested in her and he told her it was okay for her to say nigga to him. She didn't use the term and asked 'is that okay? I wasn't comfortable' And I said no its NEVER okay, he's trying to make you as comfortable as you can to smash. She dated other Asians and white boys but was cool with me and my boy as she hung with mutual friends.
This sista obviously has some choosing issues. I know of a few great black couples. They are out there. Black love in full effect, both of them are quality peoples. some are relatives, some are homies.
RCNAL said:
The point here is how you know it's White worship because these names sistas don't turn around and call White men dogs. We never hear them call White men unserious, only looking for sex, and all the other deprecating comment they lob at Black men.
I completely understand what you're saying. It's unfair to generalize and stereotype black men in such a negative light while simultaneously putting white men on a pedestal. It's important to judge people on an individual basis rather than making assumptions based on their race. Additionally, it's important to have realistic expectations when dating and not solely base your decisions on someone's race or financial status. At the end of the day, what matters most is finding someone who treats you with respect, love, and kindness.