Open honest question men moving in with women..and displaying "dictatorship" what are the thoughts family?
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Before I respond to this what do you mean my "dictatorship", I don't want to write a paragraph and I misunderstand what you were tying to say.
Say what you "feel" I left it very open for a reason, we have all been in places, yet experience became our best teacher. Now my daddy said "that man will build, & offer you to come, don't ask me for anything when you have a so called laid up with you" welp Pappa never lied ✍️ *noted* I just want to see where we really are as a people, mindset, goals etc
I don't believe in dictatorships but rather partnerships where couples put their best qualities together for the benefit of the household. For example I watched my Great Grandpa be the primary decision maker when it came to certain things but my Great Grandmother handled all decisions relating to money because she was simply better suited for that. While that may be a bit extreme fot some people it highlights the type of balance and teamwork I feel is necessary when people are committed to each other. We should want to cover the weaknesses of the ones we love while at the same time being strong enough to allow the one we love to cover ours. I feel that is one of the greatest displays of trust and indicators of a healthy relationship. If I'm uncertain of something I have no problem with asking my woman to "be my eyes" while at the same time being confident to make decisions with conviction. I can't say I haven't been a "decision-maker" in my relationships but I also expect my Queen to rule with me and let me know if she feels I'm going astray. Only together can we be God and Goddess.
I don’t believe it should be a dictatorship, that’s how you end up with a family that resents you. To be a strong leader you have to be able to listen to those in your care and adjust your behaviors when necessary. I feel like sometimes you have to make an executive decision and say “this is what we are going to do” but if you do that all the time your family will hate you.
Ok laments term MEN should you move in with a woman or does she come to you??? My father would eat this post up!!!!!
I don’t need laymen’s terms I just need properly constructed sentences. But with the clarification I will say that they should get a new place together if possible. If she has the better place then the man could move in with her but not if his name is not on the lease.
Ok ok I can see your point clearly, you are highlighting understanding & compromise which are very valid! Even down to that executive decision!! Eye stand & overstand
Had someone once tell me things like "I don't care about no credit score, bank account, I'm only paying a 3rd round here, I should be head of household" when I posted that particular question I had these "references" in mind. Just to pin a point to the alluded conversation at hand
Brother not one time was I being defiant, nor disrespectful, however your ideation is pure! EYE concur! Thank you for the response (no problems here♥️)
♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ Brother I felt this! Appreciated & agreed, thanks for your response my daddy plays in my head often. Therefore intend to measure others on what I was raised to believe lol o
That's what I'm familiar with but I also pull from what I read of our ancestors both ancient and contemporary on what to do.
If you choose the right woman a dictatorship isn't necessary.
I am the man of the house but it's a given. "If you have to remind people you are the king, then you are no king" - Tywinn Lannister to Joffrey.
I am looking for a wifey who is smart. Not talking book smarts. She has the ability to see things I missed. We work as a well oiled machine on most things. Will there be issues? Of course, that's a given but our goals and plans are bigger than any issues.
If you and her have a long term goal that you are both comitted and a code, everything else is secondary.
Choose wisely.
I am the man of the house but it's a given. "If you have to remind people you are the king, then you are no king" - Tywinn Lannister to Joffrey.
I am looking for a wifey who is smart. Not talking book smarts. She has the ability to see things I missed. We work as a well oiled machine on most things. Will there be issues? Of course, that's a given but our goals and plans are bigger than any issues.
If you and her have a long term goal that you are both comitted and a code, everything else is secondary.
Choose wisely.