Alright, imagine you’ve been dating someone for a few months. Things are going well but no one has mentioned anything about a title. Should a man or woman bring up the topic? If someone asks, what are we…what do you say?
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Alright, imagine you’ve been dating someone for a few months. Things are going well but no one has mentioned anything about a title. Should a man or woman bring up the topic? If someone asks, what are we…what do you say?
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Shit, whoever needs to have the relationship defined should ask. Like if you in a situationship and want to be exclusive then you need to put yo big boy or girl pants on and demand that y'all define what yall have. too many people be in these "engagements" and then be assuming what it is without talking to the one they dating then got the nerve to be heartbroken when they find out feelings aint mutual. Closed moufs don't get fed
This is me all day. If I want you I'm going to be the one that asks to make it exclusive. I'm not leaving anything to chance or to fate..."yo, I want you out the game...you getting on the train or not?"
Girl, I'm old school if a man wants me then he needs to ask me. If he doesn't man up and lock me down I simply move on. I like men who take initiative and aren't afraid to go for what they want. If he can't ask me for exclusivity how can I trust that he'll ask for the raise or the promotion?
I'm a bit of a take charge person. I'm not saying I would ask right away but I wouldn't leave it undefined for long either. I think communication is important and I don't want to waste time lol
This is where I stand as well. I'm not a fan of ambiguity especially for long stretches of time. As the relationship evolves I can take a week or two of ambiguity but after that I need to know if we're on the same page.