The Cookout

[lexodyssey]

For me it's when he feels like just because he's faithful and isn't abusive, he's a great partner. There's no little extras like planning dates or even just a quick text to say hi. I feel like so many settle for their partners simply because they are faithful and don’t abuse them but that doesn’t necessarily mean they are a good partner, that’s just the bare minimum and is what a partner should be doing regardless.

 

[Jay]

For me it's when he feels like just because he's faithful and isn't abusive, he's a great partner. There's no little extras like planning dates or even just a quick text to say hi. I feel like so many settle for their partners simply because they are faithful and don’t abuse them but that doesn’t necessarily mean they are a good partner, that’s just the bare minimum and is what a partner should be doing regardless.

This is a great topic, I think the bare minimum is similar to what you posted, it's when your partner becomes complacent. When they no longer feel like they have to compete to keep you. They feel like just being in a relationship with you is enough for you to feel satisfied in it. The sex gets wack, the conversation boring, you go to the same restaurant on Friday at the same time and order the same thing.

That's bare minimum to me.

 

[Lamont]

For me it's when he feels like just because he's faithful and isn't abusive, he's a great partner. There's no little extras like planning dates or even just a quick text to say hi. I feel like so many settle for their partners simply because they are faithful and don’t abuse them but that doesn’t necessarily mean they are a good partner, that’s just the bare minimum and is what a partner should be doing regardless.

Having been in a situation similar but with a woman, I have to say that it sends chills down my spine reading this. When someone takes you for granted and thinks that their presence is sufficient, it's time to bounce.

 

[Nesut]

Bare minimum is when she sit up and get fat but want you to pay all the bills.

She be like “babe do I look fat?’

I be like:

 

[Red Velvet]

For me it's when he feels like just because he's faithful and isn't abusive, he's a great partner. There's no little extras like planning dates or even just a quick text to say hi. I feel like so many settle for their partners simply because they are faithful and don’t abuse them but that doesn’t necessarily mean they are a good partner, that’s just the bare minimum and is what a partner should be doing regardless.

Giiirl preach. My longest relationship ended like this, he was cheating on me with his damn XBOX. I’d have to beg and plead to get quality time and attention but he couldn’t be bothered. One morning it clicked and I realized I was too young to tolerate that and I left that day. He begged and pleaded, called my phone crying, and I can’t lie I dipped back and sex a couple times but thankfully never got serious with him again.

 

[Caprice]

For me it's when he feels like just because he's faithful and isn't abusive, he's a great partner. There's no little extras like planning dates or even just a quick text to say hi. I feel like so many settle for their partners simply because they are faithful and don’t abuse them but that doesn’t necessarily mean they are a good partner, that’s just the bare minimum and is what a partner should be doing regardless.

Well I think the bare minimum is actually daily communication and going out with each other. I feel no abuse and no cheating should be the norm. Going above the bare minimum is when you’re actually listening to your partner, being supportive, catering to their needs, learning who they are, finding ways to make their life easier, being their biggest cheerleader, being the one they can count on.

 

[Caprice]

Reminds me of this meme too which is very true. We all have things to work on so make sure you’re with a partner who brings out the best in you, who’s patient with you, and who truly has your back. Be a better person in general so that you can bring the best parts of you to your relationship.

 

[Jay]

Well I think the bare minimum is actually daily communication and going out with each other. I feel no abuse and no cheating should be the norm. Going above the bare minimum is when you’re actually listening to your partner, being supportive, catering to their needs, learning who they are, finding ways to make their life easier, being their biggest cheerleader, being the one they can count on.

Wow someone has high standards. I don’t know if I could talk everyday, that’s a bit much.

 

[lexodyssey]

Reminds me of this meme too which is very true. We all have things to work on so make sure you’re with a partner who brings out the best in you, who’s patient with you, and who truly has your back. Be a better person in general so that you can bring the best parts of you to your relationship.

Yup, exactly! It should be about both of you and not just one side carrying the relationship. You both need to work to be better and grow together.

 

[eclipsed]

I guess the bare minimum for me would be someone who is in a relationship with me but isn't much of a partner. Like you get the benefits of having me to go out to eat with, drive you around, and let you have a place to lay your head but you do nothing for me. Very one-sided. Then when it comes to bedroom stuff, everything is done in a way that it seems to feel like a chore.

 

[Boss Hog]

When you make the same fried chicken every night. It's like "baby, I need you to mix it up".

 

[Caprice]

Wow someone has high standards. I don’t know if I could talk everyday, that’s a bit much.

Wow someone has high standards. I don’t know if I could talk everyday, that’s a bit much.

Oh please. You do just fine ;-) and standards are necessary. Talking everyday should be the bare minimum. Imagine someone asking you how your woman is doing and you're like, "Hmm let me check, I haven't talked to her in a few days."

 

[Jay]

Oh please. You do just fine ;-) and standards are necessary. Talking everyday should be the bare minimum. Imagine someone asking you how your woman is doing and you're like, "Hmm let me check, I haven't talked to her in a few days."

Nah I don't think so, I can't talk every night...what would I even talk about every night? That's too much! I gotta get this money.

 

[Tati 304]

Nah I don't think so, I can't talk every night...what would I even talk about every night? That's too much! I gotta get this money.

Don't be so concerned with getting your money that you neglect your honey.

 

[Caprice]

Nah I don't think so, I can't talk every night...what would I even talk about every night? That's too much! I gotta get this money.

Don't be so concerned with getting your money that you neglect your honey.

and I oop!

 

[Caprice]

Nah I don't think so, I can't talk every night...what would I even talk about every night? That's too much! I gotta get this money.

Like I said, you do just fine and you're great at talking for HOURS about EVERYTHING, EVERY night. :-p By the way, the money won't keep you warm at night.

 

[Jay]

Like I said, you do just fine and you're great at talking for HOURS about EVERYTHING, EVERY night. :-p By the way, the money won't keep you warm at night.

 

[Jay]

Yup, exactly! It should be about both of you and not just one side carrying the relationship. You both need to work to be better and grow together.

Yes you need to put effort in it everyday.

 

[Deleted member 1946]

It is a person doing just enough for the other person to stay in the relationship.

 

[Deleted member 1946]

For me it's when he feels like just because he's faithful and isn't abusive, he's a great partner. There's no little extras like planning dates or even just a quick text to say hi. I feel like so many settle for their partners simply because they are faithful and don’t abuse them but that doesn’t necessarily mean they are a good partner, that’s just the bare minimum and is what a partner should be doing regardless.

Many people would consider that partner BORING!

 

[Deleted member 1946]

Bare minimum is when she sit up and get fat but want you to pay all the bills.

She be like “babe do I look fat?’

I be like:

LOL. Good one.

 

[Deleted member 1946]

Like I said, you do just fine and you're great at talking for HOURS about EVERYTHING, EVERY night. :-p By the way, the money won't keep you warm at night.

It definitely won't. All it will give a person is fake love.

 

[Deleted member 1946]

Giiirl preach. My longest relationship ended like this, he was cheating on me with his damn XBOX. I’d have to beg and plead to get quality time and attention but he couldn’t be bothered. One morning it clicked and I realized I was too young to tolerate that and I left that day. He begged and pleaded, called my phone crying, and I can’t lie I dipped back and sex a couple times but thankfully never got serious with him again.

He was addicted to a gaming system. He was expecting you to wait on him.