The Cookout

[sourgrapes]

This is a question for the guys. I want to see your take on this. It was a convo I was having at work the other day.

A few of us ladies were asking the men around the clinic if they would. Only one of them said yes.

So say you met a woman who you find very attractive who has a good personality upfront but you find out she had a past stripping, being an escort/prostitute, or worked in the porn industry... Would you take marriage off the table?

I understand they are all different jobs so you can answer for each one individually if you would like.

 

[Harbinger]

Never ever ever. I don't want to marry someone who was willing at one time or another to sell her sexuality for cash. You can never be too sure that she won't fall back on those old habits if the need arises. I also don't want to be with someone who will have me looking like the fool in certain situations.

"Harbinger married Hot Passionate she was bockin and burping at the velvet lounge."

 

[sourgrapes]

Never ever ever. I don't want to marry someone who was willing at one time or another to sell her sexuality for cash. You can never be too sure that she won't fall back on those old habits if the need arises. I also don't want to be with someone who will have me looking like the fool in certain situations.

"Harbinger married Hot Passionate she was bockin and burping at the velvet lounge."

I feel the same with drug addicts. Like people can change but there is always the chance they slip back and I can't handle that risk, especially not when I want to have kids in the future. I feel you 100%.

 

[Mastamind]

No.

No disrespect.

 

[Mastamind]

Maybe stripper, and that's a huge huge maybe, but probably not.

 

[Poet]

This is a question for the guys. I want to see your take on this. It was a convo I was having at work the other day.

A few of us ladies were asking the men around the clinic if they would. Only one of them said yes.

So say you met a woman who you find very attractive who has a good personality upfront but you find out she had a past stripping, being an escort/prostitute, or worked in the porn industry... Would you take marriage off the table?

I understand they are all different jobs so you can answer for each one individually if you would like.

If a woman strips or escorts usually she had some form of trauma in her past (molestation, rape, etc). Unfortunately, many are unable to move past that and become “damaged”. It may be too much baggage to marry a woman with that type of past.

 

[Troy]

If a woman strips or escorts usually she had some form of trauma in her past (molestation, rape, etc). Unfortunately, many are unable to move past that and become “damaged”. It may be too much baggage to marry a woman with that type of past.

When time gets tough she’ll be right to stripping again.

 

[BeHart]

I think it's best if I just wait until a woman decides she chooses me. So that I minimize the odds of disservice from coupling up with a hoe hiding her past. In my experience, I can say nah, but shxt happens in unexpected ways in my life. I wouldn't want to Army crawl under that much barb wire though.

 

[Jay]

I think it's best if I just wait until a woman decides she chooses me. So that I minimize the odds of disservice from coupling up with a hoe hiding her past. In my experience, I can say nah, but shxt happens in unexpected ways in my life. I wouldn't want to Army crawl under that much barb wire though.

A woman ain‘t gonna choose you like that bruh. If you wait on her to make the move someone gonna move on her and you gonna come up empty handed.

 

[sourgrapes]

Yeah, women can be very indecisive, I know from experience. Like if I am interested in someone and they aren't showing me any signs of being interested back, I am not going to wait around. Maybe I am old school with this but I think men need to be the ones to approach women, not the other way around. I have no issue with assertive women though, there are men who like that.

 

[Victorystatus]

1 Kings 11:2-3
They were from nations in which the LORD had told the Israelites,"You must not intermarry with them, they will surely turn your hearts after their gods".

Nope nope nope

 

[Trillfate]

An honest stripper, maybe. An escort, hell never

 

[Nesut]

1 Kings 11:2-3
They were from nations in which the LORD had told the Israelites,"You must not intermarry with them, they will surely turn your hearts after their gods".

Nope nope nope

What if she can love you long time.

 

[Troy]

An honest stripper, maybe. An escort, hell never

What if she is still stripping?

 

[Victorystatus]

What if she can love you long time.

I'm not trick sticking lol
Look, everyone that previously lived that life does deserve to square up, but that's just not my flavor 😆

 

[Trillfate]

What if she is still stripping?

Ima secure dude. In a perfect world i could be with an honest stripper who just goes to work and doesnt do the extras. If trust wasn't an issue i could do it...

 

[Troy]

Ima secure dude. In a perfect world i could be with an honest stripper who just goes to work and doesnt do the extras. If trust wasn't an issue i could do it...

So you'd be cool with your lady showing her ass and tits and niggas putting $20's in her g string. To each his own.

 

[Nesut]

I'm not trick sticking lol
Look, everyone that previously lived that life does deserve to square up, but that's just not my flavor 😆

Fact is you could be laid up with a reformed one and not even know it. She could have been getting down 4 cities away and moved to your town for a fresh rep. Now you thinking you with cinderella but you with Buffy the body the hoe of PG.

 

[Trillfate]

So you'd be cool with your lady showing her ass and tits and niggas putting $20's in her g string. To each his own.

Lmao "in a perfect world" yea

In this world nahhh, probably not

 

[Troy]

Lmao "in a perfect world" yea

In this world nahhh, probably not

Money May run up in that piece and throw 200 racks at your shorty and she laying up.

"Babe, we have to stay after to clean up, I'll be home later"

 

[porter66]

Me personally I couldn't. Not that I judge them for what they've done, but because I'm always going have that in that back of my mind. It wouldn't be fair to them, if we're in the mall and dude looks as if he knows her I see that and fly off the handle, she's obviously moved from that life, but I'm I person enough to deal with it. My honest answer if I'm not.

 

[Jay]

Me personally I couldn't. Not that I judge them for what they've done, but because I'm always going have that in that back of my mind. It wouldn't be fair to them, if we're in the mall and dude looks as if he knows her I see that and fly off the handle, she's obviously moved from that life, but I'm I person enough to deal with it. My honest answer if I'm not.

This is a very mature and respectable answer. Some nigga gon' look at your shorty extra hard and you gon' be like "is he looking at Stacy or Black Cinnamon from the Fantasy Castle"?

 

[James]

Well sometime I can feel for them as many of them came forcefully or have some problems but I personally don't want to merry with someone who works in this industry.

 

[Devin]

I can begin by saying, "Absolutely not!" From my personal beliefs I believe marriage is a sacred event, marriage is supposed to be between two people, and I also feel as if sexual relations fall into this category as well. I understand some people get divorced and remarried, which is a totally different scenario. However, for someone that sells their sex life for some cash, I don't think marriage is sacred for them or anyone else in that situation. I believe that ruins the whole perspective. Plus you will never know how many people they have been with, which in my opinion, is really gross.

 

[SINCEREM]

My answer will stand Never. Even if I found out during dating, surely I'll cut off from that relationship. Most of the women I've met may be harlots who knows, but since I didn't discover, I have to move on with them xD.

 

[Barida]

I wouldn't want to be in this position where I have to make such decisions. It's going to be tough to say no when I've developed feelings for her. However, I always ask ladies straight up about their past at first meetings to avoid taking up someone I ain't gonna be proud of in the future.

 

[FeverPitch]

In my experience, most strippers are selling that thang.
All of the porn stars I heard talk say they started out doing nude modeling or stripping, one always lead to the other and both lead to porn.
Camming and OnlyFans is porn. Most porn stars escort on the side.
Most sex workers come from an unhealthy home environment.
Most are, if not addicted, are heavy drug users.
That's a lot of emotional damage to overcome.
Relationships are hard enough. I'm good.

 

[Maxwell]

I would only be able to consider getting married to such kind of women only if the normal and sane one's are no more in the world. Why in the world would I even consider getting married to an ex prostitute? There is justification for that line for work for me. Let her get married to the same people she worked with in her porn job.

 

[Sapphire]

Nope. Not even if they paid me LOL

There are plenty of men who did porn and whatnot. I seldom ever hear about them getting married unless it is to a woman in the industry. I think once you get into this line of work, you are stuck dating and marrying in it.

 

[TeeGee]

At this point I really can't tell, because you might get so hooked on a lady and she got everything you've been looking out for in a woman only to find out she's a one time stripper or was a sex service worker, it would be devastating but would you let her go because of her past. Mind you as the man you've also had sexual intimacy with several other women in the past, so you ain't a saint either.

 

[Danny]

I have this belief that we all get into the profession we are into for one reason or another but as for some lady that's into the business of being an ex-stripper, escort or a prostitute, it's a tough choice for me accept getting married to her. It's better I don't know about her past life at all.