The Cookout

[Sapphire]

Assuming you have no children, would you be with someone who doesn't want any - like marry them and commit to them for life?

A friend at work recently got engaged to a man who said he doesn't want kids. I know she does but she is lying to herself saying she doesn't need to have kids. She is only 25 and I know she will regret it when she hits her 30s.

 

[equis]

I've heard of this thing called The Seven Year Itch where a couple that's together for about seven years without any kids usually falls apart. If someone even has the slightest desire to have kids and their husband or wife doesn't, that's gonna end up being a major point of contention. At that point , what's really keeping the relationship together?

 

[Christybabe]

Nope,I wouldn't. I love kids so much and I have 3 of them,maybe I will have more but fingers crossed.

 

[RCNAL]

yes to the first question. She is lying to herself on the second.

 

[Ravenfreak]

Kids aren’t for me or my wife. However, for those wanting children they need to be with someone who wants children as well, otherwise it just won’t work out. One of those people are gonna be hurt, or worse they have kids and the kids get hurt by a parent who didn’t want them.

 

[Sapphire]

Kids aren’t for me or my wife. However, for those wanting children they need to be with someone who wants children as well, otherwise it just won’t work out. One of those people are gonna be hurt, or worse they have kids and the kids get hurt by a parent who didn’t want them.

I know there are couples who are on the same page about not wanting kids. I have an aunt and an uncle who don't and never wanted any and they are happy. They have "bird children" together lol. Both of them love parrots. But yeah, if you have someone in the relationship who didn't want them and they still had them, the kid ends up growing up feeling misplaced and unloved.

 

[ladytlw67]

I would not. I believe that both parties have to be on the same page. Either you both want children or you both want to remain childless. Speaking for myself, I know that I would eventually end up resenting my husband for not wanting children when I want a family. You're not doing yourself or your spouse any favors by settling for less than what you both want.

 

[JerriBun]

Nope, recipe for disaster if you aren't on the same page regarding children.

 

[Red Velvet]

friend at work recently got engaged to a man who said he doesn't want kids. I know she does but she is lying to herself saying she doesn't need to have kids. She is only 25 and I know she will regret it when she hits her 30s.

It’s easy to put kids aside at 25 but girl I’m in my 30’s and with the clock ticking I cannot waste time on a man who doesn’t want kids. It’s an easy way to waste valuable years of your life dealing with a man with a plan different than yours.

 

[Sapphire]

It’s easy to put kids aside at 25 but girl I’m in my 30’s and with the clock ticking I cannot waste time on a man who doesn’t want kids. It’s an easy way to waste valuable years of your life dealing with a man with a plan different than yours.

I know, right? I keep trying to tell her but she don't wanna hear it. Once you hit 30, if you don't have a special man in your life, you have to work a lot harder to weed out the garden. You don't have time to waste anymore like you did in your 20s.

 

[Heatice]

If I don't want to have kids, that's not going to be very difficult thing for me to do but if not, there's way I would agree to doing that.

What would I be doing with someone who doesn't want to have kids in the first place? It's a total waste of time.