At the same time is "the way it should be" social or natural? Do you think we'd be hearing about how independent women are if we didn't have this highly evolved society? If people had to hunt for food, had to build their own shelter, and protect their land would we still see this same strong and independence?
I do not believe there is any difference between social and natural. We are natural beings living in a natural world. The things we do (societies) come from our nature. We built them in nature using nature. I think it's literally impossible for us to do anything unnatural. It's a word that has no meaning in reality because "unnatural" doesn't exist. But I digress LOL.
I don't think we would be talking about "independent women" if we were not in a highly evolved society, but we are. Why must we live like we aren't. This is actually my point. It is human to adapt. I think we open ourselves up to easy gender-based destabilization because we are unwilling to adapt. We're holding our existence hostage to our idea of a time that doesn't exist.
Why do we strong and independent cherry picking? It's interesting how when it comes to the hardest jobs in society we don't hear about this competition with men. Why don't we see this in construction, sewer jobs, military combat, trash men, etc? Why is it only in the air conditioned jobs?
You have different tools for different jobs. Our bodies are just tools.
I posit that it is the natural order but society has made women feel that they do not need men and it isn't true.
I think there isn't a single "natural order". That's just an idea. We think just because it "worked", that's the only way it can work at all times regardless of circumstance but that conclusion is completely uninvestigated. In fact, we bitterly refuse to investigate it (solely to spite the opposition largely, I believe).
I think it's an invitation for BM to evolve, to be more for BW than the traditional hunter/gatherer. How can society convince them and don't need men if they are in fact, indispensable? I'm not saying anything has to be completely abandoned but rather, expanded, improvised. I think the allowance, the freedom to not be "as it should be" and just "be", would heal any divide.