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Do you think white women are glamorizing black men?

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Short and sweet. We are human vibrators and once they are done they throw us in the drawer and get a white man. If they get divorced they may pull us back out. But we are nothing but fun to them.
It's really sad that we even allow them to use us in such manner, it's just like using us as slaves that doesn't matter. I think we are part of our own problems.
 

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I was thinking about this. I see so much content online of white women with black men and it seems like they are glamourizing their relationships as it is some sort of status. Like they are almost showing them off like they are a trophy of some kind and it makes me hella uncomfortable. I am all for people dating whoever and I have no issues with mixed-race couples but when I see this kind of behavior, I have to wonder what is going on.

I know there is a fetish thing out there but this doesn't seem the same. It seems something similar to that of a white man having a "trophy wife" who is pretty to look at but dumb as a bag of dirt.
I agree. I also feel like they’re trying to rub it y’all faces at the same time trying to replace the Black queen which is a pipe dream.
 
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I was thinking about this. I see so much content online of white women with black men and it seems like they are glamourizing their relationships as it is some sort of status. Like they are almost showing them off like they are a trophy of some kind and it makes me hella uncomfortable. I am all for people dating whoever and I have no issues with mixed-race couples but when I see this kind of behavior, I have to wonder what is going on.

I know there is a fetish thing out there but this doesn't seem the same. It seems something similar to that of a white man having a "trophy wife" who is pretty to look at but dumb as a bag of dirt.
I agree with you on the fetish part. But I honestly, I don't think most WW glamorize black men...I think for most of these white woman they seem to look at black men as a, "Curious sexual access" nothing more. While some get into relationships and all its not on a level of a white man and black woman relationship where you see some black woman parade their white men on youtube, twitter, on any level of platform and claim it as a, "Status booster". But that's besides the point, But when asking some white woman they honestly don't have much attraction to black men as they do for someone who is asian or latino (they would rather date someone their own race or asian or latino before they go the way of a black man).

But it is a weird feeling when you do see a case where a white woman DOES glamor a Black Man; it comes off as if its back during antebellum slavery where they post up the biggest, strongest black man for either labor or for other things!
 

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    I agree with you on the fetish part. But I honestly, I don't think most WW glamorize black men...I think for most of these white woman they seem to look at black men as a, "Curious sexual access" nothing more. While some get into relationships and all its not on a level of a white man and black woman relationship where you see some black woman parade their white men on youtube, twitter, on any level of platform and claim it as a, "Status booster". But that's besides the point, But when asking some white woman they honestly don't have much attraction to black men as they do for someone who is asian or latino (they would rather date someone their own race or asian or latino before they go the way of a black man).

    But it is a weird feeling when you do see a case where a white woman DOES glamor a Black Man; it comes off as if its back during antebellum slavery where they post up the biggest, strongest black man for either labor or for other things!
    As I started getting older I started realizing this too. It’s why I think we see them date us in high school and college when they just want some sex but when it’s time for them to get serious they don’t consider us at all. We also see them come back to us after they are divorced and want some more fun. We are the forbidden fruit they want to take a bite of. We are there when they want to get their hair pulled and thuggery out but that’s all we are there for.
     

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    There are women who have fetishes and others who just want to enjoy sex. It is no secret that black men hit it differently and I think that appeals to some of them. I mean I don't care, have your fun but don't act like you aren't racist for sleeping with a black man. They think that gives them a pass.
     

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    There are women who have fetishes and others who just want to enjoy sex. It is no secret that black men hit it differently and I think that appeals to some of them. I mean I don't care, have your fun but don't act like you aren't racist for sleeping with a black man. They think that gives them a pass.
    Facts to me!!
     

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    I'm in an interracial marriage with a Hispanic woman. She isn't really big into public display of affection.
    I have always preferred her to not be a show off about me. Other women can get jealous and that causes her issues.
    I think any woman should be proud of her husband no matter what race he is. Otherwise why are you with them.

    I think that's what you are seeing. They probably don't mean to be showing off.

    However I just as a personal matter choose to focus on my own relationship than worry about others!
     

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    I'm in an interracial marriage with a Hispanic woman. She isn't really big into public display of affection.
    I have always preferred her to not be a show off about me. Other women can get jealous and that causes her issues.
    I think any woman should be proud of her husband no matter what race he is. Otherwise why are you with them.

    I think that's what you are seeing. They probably don't mean to be showing off.

    However I just as a personal matter choose to focus on my own relationship than worry about others!
    Does she understand your B1 mindstate? Is it hard to relate in that regard? How does she feel when you listen to NBM?
     

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    Does she understand your B1 mindstate? Is it hard to relate in that regard? How does she feel when you listen to NBM?
    She's interested and agrees with my view. She got tired of the Democrats before I did.
    She sat it out in 2020 because she can't neither party aligned with her interests.
    I wish I had listened to her.
    Guess that's what I get for not listening to my wife.
     

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    She's interested and agrees with my view. She got tired of the Democrats before I did.
    She sat it out in 2020 because she can't neither party aligned with her interests.
    I wish I had listened to her.
    Guess that's what I get for not listening to my wife.
    Well that's a great thing it must make it much easier for you. It's the reason why I would never want to date a White man because I couldn't imagine having a competing agenda with the one I loved.
     

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    As I'm reading through this thread, I see people making a lot of judgments about interracial relationships. What needs to be understood is that each relationship is unique and of its own.

    If a person thought that the one that they were with was racist or had that kind of ideology then obviously they wouldn't have stayed with them.

    I'm not saying that there's not people like that out there. However I think that we need to not be focused on other people's relationships.

    As foundational black Americans, we have so much more to deal with than small petty stuff like this.

    This bothers me because my wife and I get ugly looks more often from black people than we do from white people. The only time I get nasty looks from white people is when I go back home to Louisiana. But of course Louisiana is a very racist state so it's kind of expected there.

    What I don't expect is a oppression from my own black people because of who I fell in love with!
    Well that's a great thing it must make it much easier for you. It's the reason why I would never want to date a White man because I couldn't imagine having a competing agenda with the one I loved.
     

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    I'm in an interracial marriage with a Hispanic woman. She isn't really big into public display of affection.
    I have always preferred her to not be a show off about me. Other women can get jealous and that causes her issues.
    I think any woman should be proud of her husband no matter what race he is. Otherwise why are you with them.

    I think that's what you are seeing. They probably don't mean to be showing off.

    However I just as a personal matter choose to focus on my own relationship than worry about others!
    As long as your on code and you got her on code!!
     
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    As I'm reading through this thread, I see people making a lot of judgments about interracial relationships. What needs to be understood is that each relationship is unique and of its own.

    If a person thought that the one that they were with was racist or had that kind of ideology then obviously they wouldn't have stayed with them.

    I'm not saying that there's not people like that out there. However I think that we need to not be focused on other people's relationships.

    As foundational black Americans, we have so much more to deal with than small petty stuff like this.

    This bothers me because my wife and I get ugly looks more often from black people than we do from white people. The only time I get nasty looks from white people is when I go back home to Louisiana. But of course Louisiana is a very racist state so it's kind of expected there.

    What I don't expect is a oppression from my own black people because of who I fell in love with!
    Where is the judgement that you are talking about?
    The topic of this discussion is, "Do you think White woman are Glamorizing Black men?" and people are giving their POVs and opinions. And I agree with you, every relationship is different depending on the person and the mindset of each individual. But this is a general topic not pertaining to a particular relationship. The point is, there are cases where there are some White woman who tend to be with a black men out of sexual curiosity to see what's the taboo about us. Then you have those that are looking for something serious and then you have those that are looking for a thing called being a cuckhold (which has been around for a while). NO ONE is downplaying that nor insulting anyone for their choices in who they love and/or live with cause to each its own.

    But you have to also remember you are on a BLACK OWNED website specifically for black people. And if a topic like this offense you cause the discussion came up and people are expressing their ideas, feelings, and opinions to the fold then maybe this site isn't for you sir.
     

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    As I'm reading through this thread, I see people making a lot of judgments about interracial relationships. What needs to be understood is that each relationship is unique and of its own.

    If a person thought that the one that they were with was racist or had that kind of ideology then obviously they wouldn't have stayed with them.

    I'm not saying that there's not people like that out there. However I think that we need to not be focused on other people's relationships.

    As foundational black Americans, we have so much more to deal with than small petty stuff like this.

    This bothers me because my wife and I get ugly looks more often from black people than we do from white people. The only time I get nasty looks from white people is when I go back home to Louisiana. But of course Louisiana is a very racist state so it's kind of expected there.

    What I don't expect is a oppression from my own black people because of who I fell in love with!
    I have a lot to say but I’m not so I’ll keep it short and sweet. You sound completely off code
     

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    Where is the judgement that you are talking about?
    The topic of this discussion is, "Do you think White woman are Glamorizing Black men?" and people are giving their POVs and opinions. And I agree with you, every relationship is different depending on the person and the mindset of each individual. But this is a general topic not pertaining to a particular relationship. The point is, there are cases where there are some White woman who tend to be with a black men out of sexual curiosity to see what's the taboo about us. Then you have those that are looking for something serious and then you have those that are looking for a thing called being a cuckhold (which has been around for a while). NO ONE is downplaying that nor insulting anyone for their choices in who they love and/or live with cause to each its own.

    But you have to also remember you are on a BLACK OWNED website specifically for black people. And if a topic like this offense you cause the discussion came up and people are expressing their ideas, feelings, and opinions to the fold then maybe this site isn't for you sir.
    I'm not offended at all. I'm just simply saying why even care what other people are doing. What difference does it make. Even if the woman is wanting to be with the black guy because of a taboo curiosity or fettish, if the guy doesn't care then why should anyone else.

    It's just someone that comes to stuff like this I feel like I want to just buy my own business.
     
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    I'm not offended at all. I'm just simply saying why even care what other people are doing. What difference does it make. Even if the woman is wanting to be with the black guy because of a taboo curiosity or fettish, if the guy doesn't care then why should anyone else.

    It's just someone that comes to stuff like this I feel like I want to just buy my own business.
    That's the thing, there are some Black men with standards that would ask the question of, "Why you are with me really?" and it would be a fair question to ask cause that person does care about who they are dealing with. While other guys don't care and don't mind it. But the fact is ever since slavery when the massa isn't going on a slave hunt or Raping black woman on the side...the slave master's wife always had a curiosity about the, "Big black bucks" and would know to know how it feels to have them inside her. And history hasn't change in that regard; While the mindset for some do fall in line with wanting something serious it's a small percentage in the sea of those who only want just sex.

    Also just to add, Most white woman or other woman of ethnicity hears the stereotypes about us as being the, "Garbagemen of the dating world" meaning we date everything....short, skinny, plus size, super obese they see this and they use that to assume that EVERY....BLACK....MAN are so hyper-sexualized that they don't mind having sex with them and so it becomes a fetish or curiosity or well to put it lightly.....a glamorize!

    But there are Black men out here (Myself include) that found our worth and have those standards and ask those questions and tend to walk away if the case needs be....not every one would do that and those are usually the simps of thirst of the world, but i digress!

    But, not every topic is for everyone and I understand why would think this way and it's fair.
     

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    I'm not offended at all. I'm just simply saying why even care what other people are doing. What difference does it make. Even if the woman is wanting to be with the black guy because of a taboo curiosity or fettish, if the guy doesn't care then why should anyone else.

    It's just someone that comes to stuff like this I feel like I want to just buy my own business.
    I just want the Black people I surround myself around to be on code like I am point blank
     
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    As I'm reading through this thread, I see people making a lot of judgments about interracial relationships. What needs to be understood is that each relationship is unique and of its own.

    If a person thought that the one that they were with was racist or had that kind of ideology then obviously they wouldn't have stayed with them.

    I'm not saying that there's not people like that out there. However I think that we need to not be focused on other people's relationships.

    As foundational black Americans, we have so much more to deal with than small petty stuff like this.

    This bothers me because my wife and I get ugly looks more often from black people than we do from white people. The only time I get nasty looks from white people is when I go back home to Louisiana. But of course Louisiana is a very racist state so it's kind of expected there.

    What I don't expect is a oppression from my own black people because of who I fell in love with!
    I’ve been here since the beginning and I’ve caught hell on this shit for messing with whites and latinas ask HailCzr85.

    Even though I don’t agree with some of their takes it’s part of having a code. Having a code is about the community sticking together and being on a single agenda and this is what that shit feels like.

    Like Black_Knight_Discussions said we not on a rap or hip hop site we on some shit that says it’s about Black empowerment. Me fucking Beckys ain’t got shit to do with black empowerment. Me having non-Black kids is not Black empowerment.

    So while I will keep being a savage ass nigga til I’m married I do get that for the greater good we have to be careful who we date and what we do in general.

    Every other site on the internet is going to cape and promote our interracial sex, we can tolerate one that doesn’t.
     

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    As I'm reading through this thread, I see people making a lot of judgments about interracial relationships. What needs to be understood is that each relationship is unique and of its own.

    If a person thought that the one that they were with was racist or had that kind of ideology then obviously they wouldn't have stayed with them.

    I'm not saying that there's not people like that out there. However I think that we need to not be focused on other people's relationships.

    As foundational black Americans, we have so much more to deal with than small petty stuff like this.

    This bothers me because my wife and I get ugly looks more often from black people than we do from white people. The only time I get nasty looks from white people is when I go back home to Louisiana. But of course Louisiana is a very racist state so it's kind of expected there.

    What I don't expect is a oppression from my own black people because of who I fell in love with!

    I have been in interracial relationships before and at the end of the day have to accept that many people didn’t think it was right. I have always dated more Black women than any other type of women but I did think other women were exotic. But as I got older and my needs evolved I realized that a Black woman was the only woman for me.

    I say all that to say, do you. But understand that individualism is the enemy of community. You are asking a community formulated around Black Empowerment to not be concerned with the individual because you feel like there are bigger concerns we should be addressing. But is that a true statement?

    You see, a lot of our ills are due to people who prioritize themselves over the greater good of us all aka “coons”. The guy that told on Nat Turner put his own good over the good of us all. Jim Clyburn puts his self over the need of us all.

    So when B1 Black people, not all, see someone who wants to operate as an individual it causes their antennas to rise. You see, no one really gives a hoot that your wife is not Black.

    Even people that responded to you said as long as you on code, you’re good. But your response to that was “let me do what I want and y’all focus on other things” and that once again is a cause for suspicion in a niche space like this.

    This is not a “Black” site persay, the griot is a black site, the root is a black site, blavity is a black site. This is a B1 site, you are getting the “not from concentrate” opinion of Black Empowerment minded Black people.

    We all will catch some flack here but it’s good as long as it’s in the spirit of Black empowerment. No one has thrown any ad hominems your way, it’s just healthy discourse, and that’s what the site was built for.

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