Well she said she just wasn’t happy with the relationship that is going on right now. She doesn’t want to go into another marriage relationship again after her last one she had for 10 years.
Just work on yourself, work out. Sometimes when we are in relationships and forget to value ourselves as men. It sounds like she just isn't ready for commitment or commitment with you but that's okay because there's a bunch of women out there. My advice is work on yourself, start working out if you aren't already, buy yourself some new clothes and move like you're moving on and doing better even if on the inside you don't feel that way. She might start trying to come back in your life, but if you want that then no contact no contact TRUST ME. As long as you're breathing you're still in the game. Don't forget Dr.Sebi was 80 and had a 26 year old wife. So it all boils down to how you value yourself as a man first and how you exude that to women. Don't stress about never being married but rather start walking around like "I haven't met anyone who was WORTHY of ME" just walking around with that confidence will change the game.
Sorry to hear bro. It’s a process. If she’s not willing to work on the relationship with you right now, you can let her know that you still love her if that’s the case. You both may need some space. There is definitely someone out there for you. Take your time to find the right one.
Well the first thing to remember is that life goes on and will. Life is changing for you but its not over.
Thanks sis! It’s hard and I am saddened because I love black woman and living here in South west Missouri.
I don’t feel that I messed up. Everyday I text her to see how she’s doing and one day she told me that she wasn’t happy. I said why? I need for somebody to fulfill her needs. We talked about it. I told her that I love her and I put my faith and trust in her but she also explained when we talked to say that she doesn’t want to go through another marriage like she did that led her depressed and miserable. I get it and I understand. But I’m still saddened by all this
It hurts right now because I have never been married before and I don’t have any children and I’m 48 years old.
The story doesn‘t make sense but you‘re healing and this isn‘t an interrogation. Maybe she felt there was no future with you. Maybe she felt that you couldn’t elevate her in life. Or maybe she saw signs in you that triggered her. Im not caping for her but there is a reason why she was unhappy. Everything in life makes sense…if it doesn‘t it‘s because you lack information or are being lied to.
Sounds like a long distance relationship and I'm assuming she's younger? Well, the issue might not be commitment but you could have made yourself too available BUT if you were together for two years there is a chance you could get her back. Again, this goes back to reaffirming your value and having her understand, without you saying of course, that you're an opportunity she doesn't want to let slip. I recommend a whole month no contact no texts no nothing and then after you've a) Worked on yourself b) Start working out c) Find a new hobby or revive an old passion then you can hit her up... but taking the time a part is important because right now she already knows you love her because ya'll have been together for 2 years and she still wants to break up. When you're in this phase if you want her back you HAVE to ignore what your heart wants to do and give her space. Time is your friend believe it or not even at 48 and that's still young for Black folks and listen the game is wide open. I'm not telling you what I think I'm telling you what I know. My older brother just divorced and he's round your age and still catching them so it's about attitude and really you have to exude the energy that you WANT her but you don't NEED her. That's incredibly sexy to a woman and if not her then 10 others.
I's going to take some time, but you'll get through it. Make sure you give yourself time to heal mentally & emotionally. Strengthen your relationship with yourself, and tell yourself that your worth being loved.
I’m currently living with her. She told me to stay for the next couple of months but I need to leave ASAP because if I stay a little long I will fall into a deep depression over this.
I feel this but it‘s best to just do the no contact forever playa and if she comes back take it from there. Niggas get caught in this loop with trying to show women that they improved, thirst trapping with gym pics and money. If a woman lets you go it means she saw what you had offer and felt she could do better.
Yeah move out and move on but handle this situation with grace and the doors will open up.
Let me re-faze what I said she said I could stay for a couple of months until I need to move out. Right now I am planning to move out ASAP
You’ll be fine big dog but I see a red flag already but let me know when you ready for that conversation.
I understood what you said. Think about it. She telling you how long you can stay. That shows you the balance of power already. Women don’t wanna have that power.
It just depends on what you want but I just want him to know what his options are and I don't know their relationship but I know women but I don't disagree with your main point but non-verbal communication is important and I know from experience that sometimes as men we forget about our own value being so focused on the woman and even if he deals with another woman he'll find himself in the same situation if he doesn't change that aspect and I never said show a woman "improvement" that's not the game the game is to improve and let them notice and more importantly never let them see you sweat. So instead of being depressed start dressing better and looking better for YOUR sake and that attracts. Women can tell when it's not genuine that's why moving out and no contact is important but even marriages fail or struggle when people forget that very concept. EVEN WOMEN have a hard time with this because they focus so much on the man that he takes her for granted.
Means the same thing, she feels like you NEED her rather than just WANT her. Always have options and this is advice I give women in the same situation. Leaving ASAP reinforces that you don't NEED her and she has to evaluate differently. The longer you stay reinforces why she wants to break up.
She came home from work and saw that nigga playing NBA Live for the last time. He had the same shorts on from when he woke in the morning and she was through.
Work on yourself man. Hit the gym, take stock of your life & re-evaluate your life goals. If you got a little extra change...travel travel travel. It will open up your horizons and you never know who you might meet out there in the world.
Learn how to enjoy life without others and you will attract the right person..
I'm a person that never liked being alone. The problem with that is the wrong people show up. After 5 years, the Most High sent my dear King & we've been together much longer than most. Point is, if you rush into another relationship, it won't be the one. Wait, you won't regret it & more power to you bruh. ✊🏽
I have a plan right now. I am taking Digital photography as an Art. I also currently am working in the Steel industry. I am doing what I am to better myself.
