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Remember, Everyone is Nice When They Want Something From You

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    It may be your cash, your attention, a like, a follow, a share, or etc. You do not know if someone is genuine or sincere until it is time for them to do something FOR YOU. You will always find out who truly rocks with you when you need a helping hand.

    You may find that those who you thought were allies will be there to spit on you. I’ve seen it happen time and time again and a lot of stems for us ASSUMING we have equity with a person based on us doing right by them. But when it comes time to get some of that equity you go to the bank and realize you wasn’t building equity…you was renting.

    The second your payment stops, the cordialness stops and it’s time for you to go. Make sure you’re analyzing the situations in your life to ensure you’re truly building equity with those you support.
     

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    IIt may be your cash, your attention, a like, a follow, a share, or etc. You do not know if someone is genuine or sincere until it is time for them to do something FOR YOU. You will always find out who truly rocks with you when you need a helping hand.

    You may find that those who you thought were allies will be there to spit on you. I’ve seen it happen time and time again and a lot of stems for us ASSUMING we have equity with a person based on us doing right by them. But when it comes time to get some of that equity you go to the bank and realize you wasn’t building equity…you was renting.

    The second your payment stops, the cordialness stops and it’s time for you to go. Make sure you’re analyzing the situations in your life to ensure you’re truly building equity with those you support.
    I appreciate all you have done for me brother. Ill be able to put more of my money where my mouth is once the twins get here. We had ti make some major purchases recently but just know my family and I greatly support what you doing. Don't let detractors stop your progress. You have a lot of support and its growing daily.
     

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    It may be your cash, your attention, a like, a follow, a share, or etc. .....
    I'm a very content hermit "nobody" 😊 💕 but you as well as The Black Narrative are 👑'$
    I get good vibes from.
    No one has to bribe me to make mention of you in a good light. I'm sure you all are meaning well ♾️ and the grassroot movement often bumps heads but it'll all work out in the end. Trust and keep WORKING DILIGENTLY 👑👁️📚 YOU GOT THIS 📌
     

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    I appreciate all you have done for me brother. Ill be able to put more of my money where my mouth is once the twins get here. We had ti make some major purchases recently but just know my family and I greatly support what you doing. Don't let detractors stop your progress. You have a lot of support and its growing daily.
    Of course bruh and while it does apply to me the thread is inspired by something I saw happen a day ago that was cold blooded. Sometimes the signs be right in front of your face and you ignore them.

    I'm a very content hermit "nobody" 😊 💕 but you as well as The Black Narrative are 👑'$
    I get good vibes from.
    No one has to bribe me to make mention of you in a good light. I'm sure you all are meaning well ♾️ and the grassroot movement often bumps heads but it'll all work out in the end. Trust and keep WORKING DILIGENTLY 👑👁️📚 YOU GOT THIS 📌
    Thank you and like I said to ProMoatBlack it is applicable to me and #tethergate it is about things I’ve seen recently in my personal life. Where we think we are building rapport for our good deeds but we are really just feeding and enriching people who do not care for us one bit.
     

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    Of course bruh and while it does apply to me the thread is inspired by something I saw happen a day ago that was cold blooded. Sometimes the signs be right in front of your face and you ignore them.


    Thank you and like I said to ProMoatBlack it is applicable to me and #tethergate it is about things I’ve seen recently in my personal life. Where we think we are building rapport for our good deeds but we are really just feeding and enriching people who do not care for us one bit.
    We apprwciate you sharing your truth with us brother. It always sucks to learn you were being taken advantage of when you just trying to be a good steward to your people. Unfortunately I had to deal with this from family. It's sad when you have to separate from those you love out of self preservation. Some people will bleed you dry if you let them.
     
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    It may be your cash, your attention, a like, a follow, a share, or etc. You do not know if someone is genuine or sincere until it is time for them to do something FOR YOU. You will always find out who truly rocks with you when you need a helping hand.

    You may find that those who you thought were allies will be there to spit on you. I’ve seen it happen time and time again and a lot of stems for us ASSUMING we have equity with a person based on us doing right by them. But when it comes time to get some of that equity you go to the bank and realize you wasn’t building equity…you was renting.

    The second your payment stops, the cordialness stops and it’s time for you to go. Make sure you’re analyzing the situations in your life to ensure you’re truly building equity with those you support.
    Great point. Lots of fake folks everywhere.
     
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    We apprwciate you sharing your truth with us brother. It always sucks to learn you were being taken advantage of when you just trying to be a good steward to your people. Unfortunately I had to deal with this from family. It's sad when you have to separate from those you love out of self preservation. Some people will bleed you dry if you let them.
    Yep. Blood family members will definitely do this. It is sad to say.
     

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    It may be your cash, your attention, a like, a follow, a share, or etc. You do not know if someone is genuine or sincere until it is time for them to do something FOR YOU. You will always find out who truly rocks with you when you need a helping hand.

    You may find that those who you thought were allies will be there to spit on you. I’ve seen it happen time and time again and a lot of stems for us ASSUMING we have equity with a person based on us doing right by them. But when it comes time to get some of that equity you go to the bank and realize you wasn’t building equity…you was renting.

    The second your payment stops, the cordialness stops and it’s time for you to go. Make sure you’re analyzing the situations in your life to ensure you’re truly building equity with those you support.
    Facts
     

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    I'm off topic (sorry!)
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    once the twins get here. We had ti make some major purchases recently but just know my family and I greatly support what you doing.

    soon!?! I'm so excited for you all.
     

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    I'm off topic (sorry!)
    surprised russell westbrook GIF by Bleacher Report



    soon!?! I'm so excited for you all.
    Yes mam!!! February 2nd she will be induced into labor. Keep us in your prayers. We had our first child at home. This time due to twins we have to have them in the hospital. Thankfully mama bear is healthy enough to deliver vaginally and both babies are head down. Almost time sis!!
     

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    This is why my dad told me and my brothers growing up to never tell other people about our finances. If we were to ever win the lottery or score some high paying job, just don't even talk about it cause people will be lining up with open hands and casting all kinds of hate your way if you don't pay out.
     

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    Some of them barely even try to conceal their contempt of, manipulation of, and resentment for you when they try to ask, demand, pressure, guilt, or shame you into buying their way, especially if they have little to no respect for you in the first place.
     

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    It may be your cash, your attention, a like, a follow, a share, or etc. You do not know if someone is genuine or sincere until it is time for them to do something FOR YOU. You will always find out who truly rocks with you when you need a helping hand.
    Many will try to shame and gaslight you even after you help them. Hell some of them will spit in your face and still disrespect and think/speak ill of you even after you help them. Lots of subtle and overt jealousy and envy (and resentment from that same jealousy and envy) when you examine carefully. I am talking about all races, ages, genders, etc. of people by the way. From strangers to friends to family to enemies and anyone else.

    Them: No! Why would we/I help you or share with you when you never do anything for us?
    Me: Well that's not true. I did [this] and I did [that]. And remember I did [this]?
    Them: That doesn't count [and makes lame BS excuses on why what I did to help them wasn't good enough and how I'm still a selfish person]
    Also Them: Come on, give us/me some. You're selfish. We/I always try to share with you.
     

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    We apprwciate you sharing your truth with us brother. It always sucks to learn you were being taken advantage of when you just trying to be a good steward to your people. Unfortunately I had to deal with this from family. It's sad when you have to separate from those you love out of self preservation. Some people will bleed you dry if you let them.
    And once you are bled dry from damn near everyone (including some family), those same leeches will be blaming you for going broke while shrugs their shoulder and wagging their fingers at you.
     

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    This is why my dad told me and my brothers growing up to never tell other people about our finances. If we were to ever win the lottery or score some high paying job, just don't even talk about it cause people will be lining up with open hands and casting all kinds of hate your way if you don't pay out.
    Some will also use your own confirmed or perceived set of finances as an excuse not to provide help to you or feel bad when you go broke. In their minds, you deserve to be as broke as (if not more than) they are.

    And those who refused to have anything to do with you before will then be sending you all kinds of "Hey bighead, 'member me?" texts, calls, messages, emails, and letters. 🤢😷😡
     

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    Some will also use your own confirmed or perceived set of finances as an excuse not to provide help to you or feel bad when you go broke. In their minds, you deserve to be as broke as (if not more than) they are.

    And those who refused to have anything to do with you before will then be sending you all kinds of "Hey bighead, 'member me?" texts, calls, messages, emails, and letters. 🤢😷😡
    For sure! Some people out there are just so envious of others that the only thing that brings them joy in life is seeing other people lose something, suffer, or become beneath them in some way. I was friends with a "rich girl" in high school, her father was a lawyer and her mother wrote books. They had good money. I can't tell you how many nasty thing people said about her around the school just cause her parents had money.
     

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    Of course bruh and while it does apply to me the thread is inspired by something I saw happen a day ago that was cold blooded. Sometimes the signs be right in front of your face and you ignore them.


    Thank you and like I said to ProMoatBlack it is applicable to me and #tethergate it is about things I’ve seen recently in my personal life. Where we think we are building rapport for our good deeds but we are really just feeding and enriching people who do not care for us one bit.
    Roger that, I simply eat the fish and spit out the bones ♾️ there's at least a dozen names I'm sure could be attached to this..... 🧠🌩️ ....
     
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    For sure! Some people out there are just so envious of others that the only thing that brings them joy in life is seeing other people lose something, suffer, or become beneath them in some way. I was friends with a "rich girl" in high school, her father was a lawyer and her mother wrote books. They had good money. I can't tell you how many nasty thing people said about her around the school just cause her parents had money.
    I am not surprised. I guess we are supposed to be relegated to poverty. Crabs in the barrel.
     
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    Some will also use your own confirmed or perceived set of finances as an excuse not to provide help to you or feel bad when you go broke. In their minds, you deserve to be as broke as (if not more than) they are.

    And those who refused to have anything to do with you before will then be sending you all kinds of "Hey bighead, 'member me?" texts, calls, messages, emails, and letters. 🤢😷😡
    This is 100 million percent true. All these folks who say they love you will pop up once you hit the lottery or a casino jackpot.
     
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    And once you are bled dry from damn near everyone (including some family), those same leeches will be blaming you for going broke while shrugs their shoulder and wagging their fingers at you.
    I see this with ball players all the time. I was looking at something that said the majority lose their money very shortly after they left the league.
     
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    This is why my dad told me and my brothers growing up to never tell other people about our finances. If we were to ever win the lottery or score some high paying job, just don't even talk about it cause people will be lining up with open hands and casting all kinds of hate your way if you don't pay out.
    Yep. And blackmail.
     
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    Many will try to shame and gaslight you even after you help them. Hell some of them will spit in your face and still disrespect and think/speak ill of you even after you help them. Lots of subtle and overt jealousy and envy (and resentment from that same jealousy and envy) when you examine carefully. I am talking about all races, ages, genders, etc. of people by the way. From strangers to friends to family to enemies and anyone else.

    Them: No! Why would we/I help you or share with you when you never do anything for us?
    Me: Well that's not true. I did [this] and I did [that]. And remember I did [this]?
    Them: That doesn't count [and makes lame BS excuses on why what I did to help them wasn't good enough and how I'm still a selfish person]
    Also Them: Come on, give us/me some. You're selfish. We/I always try to share with you.
    Great example. In other words, they want to make themselves not look like the victim.